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writes:So.. When my boyfriend and I first started talking I would get butterflies and get really super happy when I talked to him, but now I don't get super happy or butterflies. Is this a sign that we need to take a break or what? I'm so confused on what to do.. I love him with all my heart. I'm just not feeling the same way as I used to. Is this part of a normal relationship? Does this happen to everyone or just me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2014): That's the way it is. You don't feel that crazy feeling each and every-time. It comes and goes. You have ups and downs, but you still care about each other.
You are only sixteen and relationships shouldn't be too intense. They should be fun. As long as you care for him, that is really all that matters.
There are going to be times when you look into his eyes, or you see his smile; and you'll feel warm and fuzzy all over.
The butterflies usually happen at the very beginning when you don't know each other that well. They turn into warmer feelings and trust, as you get to know each other better.
Your post is so cute, you put a smile on my face!
Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2014): Happens everyone, think what it's like when you first got a really great xmas present which you still love, it's pretty much the same.
You'll be happy to know that there will be plenty of special moments where they will come back though.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 February 2014):
 it's a sign that you are settling down.
butterflies and super happy are feelings when something is new... you can't expect them to last forever....
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2014): Yes, what you're feeling is completely normal. You've gone from the butterflies stage to the next stage. It's a shame we can't always feel that butterflies stage, but it does fade and it changes to a different feeling that I call the comfort stage, where you start to relax (and maybe start eating in front of them or farting LOL).
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2014): This is totally normal, you can't get nervous and excited every time you talk to the person you're with for the rest of your life. It's your body's way of settling down and accepting that this person is someone that you are now comfortable with.
It's just young and new love growing old, now you have a different sort of love and that's just as good.
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reader, devont  +, writes (25 February 2014):
 The butterflies do fade after a while, as does the extreme blissful happiness all relationships.
It doesn't mean you love him any less, as long as you still like spending time with him and you're not interested in anyone else.
Enjoy yourself and try not to worry. When it is going wrong, then you'll know! But right now as long as you think it is ok, then its fine!
All the best :)
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