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writes: I was friends with this guys for a while then he asked me out, I had known that he liked me for awhile, and i had liked him too but being the coward that I am, did nothing. One day we were alone together and he asked me out. I of course said yes. During the time that we were together he always seemed unsure of himself, like i would reject him in some way. Then 5 months later he broke up with me and said that he wasn't ready for a relationship and just wanted to be friends, but I don't know if he just said that to cover up some other reason, whatever that may be. It was awkward for about a month or so, but now we are pretty much back to normal. But the problem is that his friend likes on me and although he's really nice and sweet I know that I could never be able to be with him knowing that I still like my ex. I want to tell my ex that I still have feelings for him but I'm worried that if he doesn't like me it will be awkward again. I want so bad to tell him, but what i fear most is rejections and that it would be weird for both of us knowing that he knows that i like him. And i also don't want to hurt his friend's feelings. HELP!!!
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reader, stellar25  +, writes (15 May 2008):
the biggest part of being in a relationship is the unknown which scars people its natural to not what to be rejected but if you dont tell him how you feel then you'll never know if he really likes you. if he doesnt like you then you will know that it wasnt meant to be a you can move on. BE HONEST. tell his friend that you still have feelings for his friend and just tell him the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): I'm not sure how to help because your question is a difficult one. You like your ex, but because he dosen't want a relationship, your not free to tell him how you feel. Another guy likes you but you don't have feelings for him. You can't tell you ex how you feel because you don't want to spoil the friendship.
I can see three possible solutions. (1) You tell your ex and the friendship ends. (2) You don't tell your ex and you continue to be friends. (3) You tell your ex and you start dating again. Like you, I'm not sure but it seems your ex is fine with just friendship, it may not be a good idea to push for anything more. If this is the case then there is no reason for you not to spend time with other people. You don't fancy this other guy, well that's understandable, and it's admirable that you don't want to be with him if you don't have strong feelings.
I don't know. Personally I'd sit on the sidelines, stop dating and wait to see what happens. Who knows someone better than both these guys could come along and sweep you of your feet.
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