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writes:My ex finished me over 5-6 month after over 3yrs needless to say I was devastated and people who we knew were stunned. I gave him everything but it felt like it wasn't enough. When people asked why he use to say he didn't know and he even said to me he felt lost but it was something he felt he had to do. His family called him a fool for throwing away a diamond but I think hoped we would get back together (like I still do). Anyway we spoke often, usually asking what we had been up to and personally it felt like nothing had changed. My friend asked him if he still liked me and he said he always would. Not long after that I went away with him for the weekend and things happened under the sheets. After the weekend he became slightly distant but spoke. However as time went on he has slowly began to remove me - I don't know why or what I've done wrong (people say I haven't but it feels like I have) and not speak very often. Whilst this has been occuring I have been going out with friends but it doesn't seem right without him. II know he said he would always like me but at the minute I feel as though he dislikes me and possibly hate me but don't know why. I know he has flirted with other girls - but this is what has me uncertain. He is now seeing an older woman - well 5 years older (most people say it won't last even some of his family but I believe it will and that they will accept her and everything)but before he went or whilst he was getting with her - he asked me if I was seeing anyone which I thought was weird and since that question he has taken me off as friends on a site which I can't understand why. With him asking me if I'm seeing someone - does that mean that somewhere deep down he is still interested in me and what I do? I still love him and want him back - I know it looks bleak as he is with someone else now - but I am trying to remain positive and believe he will as well as going out with mates.Sorry it's long - please help
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reader, Forever_His  +, writes (7 November 2008):
That's pretty much the same thing I am going through. He always made me feel so good, even on our bad days. My guy is my first relationship so it's really hard on me. Not only have I lost my boyfriend, but also one of my best friends. I know how you feel. I am close with his mom and dad. They have not spoken to him much at all since the break up, but that is on him because he is the one who has disappeared. They even want to see him. They feel as if I deserve answers from him. I try my best to act like I'm fine without him, but it's hard. I gave him so much. Did everything in my power for him. I don't know the age difference between you and your boy, but I'm 20, and he is 25. He's been in a few relationships in his time, but he told me that ours was the best for him, because I accept him for who he really is and so much more. I feel your pain, his family wants him to come home and I miss him terribly obviously. I just hope it's not too long before I see or talk to him again..He does have me very confused because he told me he could never stop loving me..3 weeks after breaking up but he has since changed his phone number and no one knows where he is..hope everything works out for you and me both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know the situation is complicated . . one minute he was i can't see a future then like i can see a future with you but i don't know what i want in my head yet . . then he is now going with an older woman well 5yrs - some are saying it will last and others aren't . . .as for him deleting me off friends i'm tempted to readd him so he can see from my photos that i'm enjoying myself but i'm also scared he will decline as he may think i only want to know what is going on in his relationship or that i'm running after him
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): Let go. Right now I'm in a similar situation... i was great to her, but she dumped me out of nowhere. If he can't appreciate you, let him go. Don't keep hurting yourself by letting him get to you. Just walk away and leave it behind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): this is a tough one
u really love the guy but he seems to be sending you mixed signals and you cant wait around the rest of your life
just ask him outright what is going on..explain how you feel to him.xx
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