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writes:Ive been split with my guy for about nearly 3 months now, but are relationship seems weired compared to my other relationships, and also a few of my friends ex relationships.On the day we split it was his choice to end it, anyway we split in the morning, then which we spent the rest of the whole day together, then i stayed over his house that same night( strange aint it)the day of our splitwe also speak to each other everyday on the phone,and still do, we sometimes dont speak to each other in the evenings, we always see each other in the pub and will often talk to one another then as well, we have also sleept together only once a few weeks ago,He is kinda started going out with a past gf again well i say kinda they both like each other but are both single, A few of my mates say he likes me still, but i know he likes this other girl a lot and i dont think i stand a chance getting back with him Ijust think its a strange end to a relationship since my mates said about it, its like he dosnt want to let go of me in case it doesnt work out with her Any other advice or anyone else think its strange?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): He needs to make his mind up whether it is on or off. You are not a stand-in in case it doesn't work out. If you value yourself, tell him has to be either one thing or another. If he won't commit, back off and find someone who is sure of how he feels towards you.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (6 November 2008):
 I don't really think it's strange that he likes spending time with you. Breaking up sometimes makes the whole world feel unsettled and unfamiliar somehow, so it's really easy to fall back into old habits. And one of the old habits of is you. A similar thing happened to me when I was around 21. We broke up, but wereso used to being around each other that we would continue to hang around with each other. It's not necessarily a bad thing, unless one of you really wants to get back together and the other one is happy with just being friends. If it's going to be a problem to see him start dating a new girlfriend then maybe you need to spend less time with him. One other thing to think about is that by spending time with him people might think that you're still a couple, and you might miss out on meeting a really a really great guy.
The other risk is that you'll go through another mini-breakup when one of you decides that he or she wants to move on and stop spending time together. But if you're prepared for all these risks than I don't see any reason not to remain friends and spend time together.
Now, if you're really not interested in spending time with him, then you need to be firm about it and gently and nicely but with resolve move him along. It is possible to remain friends with an ex but you have to pay close attention to your feelings and don't do anything that makes you unhappy or uncomfortable. If I were you, I'd be careful not to get into the friends with benefits situation or have nostalgia sex. Women's hearts are funny things and being sexually intimate can often lead to heartbreak if there's no love involved.
Good luck!
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