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writes:firstly hello and thank you for taking the time to read thisi feel so low right now i dont know where to begin. me and my gf have been together for 10 years on and off, we split for 3 years and she was in another relationship for that time, but we ended up back together after that relationship ended.about a year later i found out that she went in town one night and ended up taking her ex back to her mums and stayed the night but claims nothing happenedthis has now been going on for 2 years now and im still convinced that something happened to the point where i can even sleep with her dont get me wrong i do love her its just this one niggling thing about that night that i cant get rid of, and in the middle of all of this are the 3 children we have together
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): Why don't you believe her? What makes you uncomfortable about the situation?
Has she ever given you any reason not to trust her? Has she lied to you about things in the past?
If you trust her, then why, do you find it so difficult to accept that she is being honest to you?
If you have good reason not to believe her then you need to discuss it with her and get this out of the system before it ultimately destroys your relationship. Sometimes these small foxes can do lots of damage to the vineyard, be aware of them! Love, honesty, trust and communication are very important to ensure a happy relationship.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): take a good look at what you have and then think is all this doubt that you keep thinking of worth it,she said nothing happened and you have to believe in what she is saying,otherwise it is going to destroy your relationship just as it destroyed mine as i was determined to prove she had cheated,when infact she had not but i just wanted to be right and did not want to admit i got it wrong and made a fool of myself
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): I would have to say, dont let the past bug you. BUT i would feel the same way about my boyfriend (im female)if he did something like that,(which he almost did but not really) but i would keep playing things in my head that i THINK happened to the point where it makes me so angry i cant be with him.. but eventually i would go back to him because i too have children with my bf of many years and i do love and trust him.. IDK you have to figure out if you trust her or not. and if you do, GOOD, be with her, but if not.. you should think about it because a relationship gets nowhere without trust. SO figure out if you trust her and when you believe her, you can have sex again. :)
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