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writes:hey, so all the time i get "you are so beautiful", "you look like a model", "you always look so nice", and the "if any girl is mean to you its because they are jealous" from all my teachers. guys check me out at the mall all the time and they are like 6 years older then me. But no guy has asked me out. like 50 people came rushing over to me one day and said "anonomys, anonomys, and anonomys like you!" of course they said their real names but they are the most popular guys in the whole 7 grade! but none of them ask me out, i have gone out with 1 guy since the beginning of this school year, im starting to think the teachers are lying but why would they talk to me in private about that if they didnt think it? So I'm beautiful and boyfriendless?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): As a guy at a similar age as you I have to say that if I look back at some of the relationships ive been in... yeah I went with someone cute but not gorgeous and I admit that I DO feel intimidated by very gorgeous girls, the thing is you have to make urself feel accessible, show that your social so that without anyone talking to you they can just tell your bubbly and easy going/easy to talk to person. What you must realise is that most guys in high school go by what they hear about a girl not what they actually discover, so if you find someone you think is cute try and make the true you be shown, otherwise he may chicken out and search for someone he knows better or feels is more accessible to him as a person.
Hope I helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): did you ever think that maybe your too young and shouldnt really be worrying about boys right now, you'll have plenty of time to do that in a couple years as most likely they wont leave you alone and youll be fighting them off .so enjoy being boy friendless while it last. go have some fun and quit worrying
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): i mean this in a nice way
"So I'm beautiful and boyfriendless?"
maybe ur appearing stuck up and arrogant to men like "i know im beautiful" attitude.. it can be unnatractive too and put them off. Look at paris hilton. most guys hate her
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): Whe I was younger I was very attractive but didnt attract many boyfriends. However when I look at some of the men my friends are lumbered with I wouldnt want them thanks.
I think a lot of it is probably they think your too good for them!!!$
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reader, lilbubbles +, writes (14 December 2008):
lilbubbles is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks alot to all of you, exept for the ones who said i was imagining things. I am not dilusional just so ya know. thnx again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): Well - I am a lot older than you (I turn thirty next year), but during my late teens and early twenties I actually was a model. I got told I was beautiful all the time (mostly by other women, I might add!), and there were always a lot of rumours going around about guys that liked me, but no-one ever asked me out or flirted with me - in fact through most of my time at school I was a bit of a loner, definetly not one of the "popular" girls. I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was seventeen. Of course I started to think it was because there was something wrong with me, either I wasn't as attractive as people told me, or there was something freaky about me, or I'd done or said something to put boys off (I even worried that I smelled bad for a while!), but looking back at pphotographs and memories from back then, I now realise it was none of these things. I can let you know a few things I've learned since then anyway:- Boys (particularly young boys) are often actually put off by someone who looks very classically "beautiful" (I use the inverted commas because I think that beauty comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes). They find it intimidating to approach someone they think may reject them (or worse, laugh), they often expect very attractive women to be arrogant, or vain, or self-obsessed (I heard someone address an exceptionally gorgeous model I was working on a shoot with in a surprised tone "But you're so down to earth!") - they don't want to deal with a high maintenance girlfriend. Also, guys are posessive - they don't like the idea of other men ogling their woman all the time, they might even feel that she's more likely to cheat if she's good looking. Interestingly, a good male friend of mine once told me that he prefers girls who are pretty and cute and bubbly rather than supermodel gorgeous - because a supermodel is like an expensive sports car - you can admire one, but it doesn't mean you want the hassle of looking after it everyday.- at your age (I'm thinking about 13-17 here) actually, most people aren't having a lot of action on the romance front. I remember well thinking that all the girls in my class had boyfriends and exciting social lives and went on dates - but actually, I realise now that they probably didn't. There were one or two girls that got boyfriends early on, but they were definetly the minority. There were others that dated now and then, but the amount that dating was talked about was way out of proportion to the amount of it that actually went on. Having spoken to my friends as an adult you would be surprised, but the majority of us didn't have our first boyfriend or girlfriend until we were at least in our late teens - some didn't have a proper relationship until going to university - yet we all at the time felt like the one who was "left behind" so to speak.- When I was in my teens I was shy, and self-concious, and my way of dealing with this was to keep people at arms length - I often came across as stand-offish, even arrogant - although this was far from the case - I just didn't know how to communicate with people in an easy, carefree manner. Its possible something unconcious in the way you behave suggests that you don't want boys to talk to you.- For a long time I was so anxious to have boys like me, that I forgot about liking boys. This sounds weird, but a lot of girls do it - they're so concerned with "having a boyfriend", that when a guy does show a smidgen of interest in them, they're suddenly up for a date without even considering wheher he's someone they might actually enjoy spending time with. They want all boys to like them, which is irrelevant: it's better to be liked by one really nice guy, than liked by a thousand jerks.So I guess, in summary - don't worry too much. Getting a boyfriend is not a race. Its far better to wait a while and end up with someone you like, than just go out with the first guy who asks you becaus eyou don't want to be the single girl. What's important isn't having a boyfriend - it's having a DECENT boyfriend - and unfortunately you often have to wait around for those. So don't worry. Your time will come - it does for all of us.
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reader, heartbroken . x  +, writes (14 December 2008):
hey
i think boys are scared to ask you out , because they think ur really pretty and scared to be turned down
teachers are sometimes wrong but sometimes right , my toutor told me that my ex isent worth worrieing about because i should concentrate on my exams more , i did that and didnt chase after him and hey it worked ,
just think of one boy u like over this week comeing
and then work on him , try and be more attacted to him , then he might make you happy
hope it helps
heart broken . x
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reader, piggytoes1818 +, writes (14 December 2008):
I get the same thing, or I did at your age. Teenage guys are really cowards. They don't ask out the pretty ones or the smart ones, they ask out the ones that are most popular, and who their friends think is hot. High school it gets a litle better, and as you get even older, your problems will be gone!
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reader, Angels Eyes +, writes (14 December 2008):
 See to be honest no offence but thats quite unbelievable "beautiful" and boyfriendless if you're as beautiful as you've made out then the guys you know are blind or stupid? Plus what teachers have said to you they have no right to say if they say it to you then they have to have said it to other pupls as well! But i'm sure you are a very pretty girl! If you're as pretty as you say then a don't know what the hell is going on with guys!
xxxANGELS EYESxxx
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reader, danniebobannie  +, writes (14 December 2008):
Well that makes too of us although Im a bit older.....but yeah it drives me insane when guys do that so instead....I just tease'em(not like a slut). If you catch a guy looking at you, just say hi or smile at him(if you think he looks like a good guy) and walk away. It makes them have more courage to go and talk to you. That's how I got a lot of my boyfriends. I Hope I helped! :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): I think you may just be imagining some of these things/people are teasing you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): would you have the guts to approach a gorgeous guy? probably not
men can see u are stunning and are scared to approach you
they probably think you already have a boyfriend..or that you would never be interested in them
try smiling at men so they wnt be nervous to approach you
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): There is an alternative...you could do what my girlfriend did and ask the guy out :o...lol hehehehe don't be a chicken =)
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