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female
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30-35,
*elilahjet
writes:I started being a dancer like 2 months ago at first it was so much fun, i loved attention and the pay was worth it, now im getting tired of it already and it really messes with my mind with the fact that it affected my dating life and it totally changed me for bad. ive been trying to take a break this past week but i know i wil have to get back to work sooner or later when i need more money until i save up a descent amount for another few weeks.it really sucks now because i dont know how to get out of it..im so confused and iam also getting tird of the secret life. like not tlelling my close firends and family the truth about where i work....help help help....any advice....
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (14 May 2009):
 If this is affecting your personal life then you need to stop, there are plenty of other jobs out there you just need to put the time in to find one!
You have to be prepared that other jobs wont be as well paid so be ready to learn to live off less but surely it will be worth it if you would be happier? Just hand in your notice/quit your dancing job and spend every day searching online for a new job. Make sure your resume is up to date and has all your key skills and previous experience (leave off the dancing though!) on it. I dont know whether you are at college and just looking for a part time job or something more long term but either way you will be able to find something.
As for your family and friends, if you quit the dancing within the week then there is no real need to tell them. Put it down as part of your past that you did when you really needed money, and forget about it. If you tell your family and friends they will only be disappointed, so there is no point in telling them if you are going to quit. If you really love the money and cant stop for that reason, then you will have to tell them (mostly for your own safety reasons). There is no good way to do it - you would just have to sit down with them and tell them. Your family will love you no matter what, all they will feel is dissapointed that you havent made more of yourself in life and resorted to dancing to make money.
I personally do not think there is any shame in dancing to pay your way through college but if you are doing this full time with no other prospects then you need to really re-think where your life is going. A career in dancing is limited to how long you look good enough to do it - it is definately not a forever thing! So find something you are good at, find a job in that area at a good company where you have prospects and then work hard to build a career for yourself.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 May 2009):
If you aren't enjoying it and it's just about the money then just get another job.
You don't need to tell your family about it if you find another way to make cash.
There has to be some job out there and even if it's not as well paid you won't have all this stress and that's got to be worth it.
Good Luck!! xx
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