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writes:hi, im 20 and i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. for quite a long time I have been asking myself if I am happy, and i think I am but I'm not sure. I spend most of my time trying to make him happy instead of myself. I have done this the whole time we have been together.From doing this I have recently realised I dont really know who I am anymore. I dont know what I like to do because I spend the whole time doing things he likes to do. He is not a controlling boyfriend at all by the way! He never forces me to do anything. For some reason I just buy clothes that I think he will like, not because I like them. I give him lifts everywhere and do anything to make him happy.I love him but deep down I know its not ment to be like this is it? Thank you for the advise.. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 if you have to ask yourself if you are happy and you are not sure then i think you are not...I do many things to make my bf happy. I dress a certain way that he prefers but does not comprimise what I like to wear. I've changed my hair but it was something I wanted to do anyway and he was right, I get many more compliments on it this way and I prefer it this way myself.IF he does things for you to make you happy then you doing things for him to make him happy is a trade off.. but if it's one sided and he does nothing to make you happy, perhpas it's time to re-evaluate why you are with him and why it's so important for you to make him happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2011): I think you are bringing all this to your self, if he is not a controlling boyfriend am sure he appreciates it even if you don't do anything for him just start doing more for your self.
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