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writes: I've been with my boyfriend for two years but the other week I slept with my ex. My ex wants to give it another go and I was tempted but I realised how much I love my boyfriend and how I couldn't be without him. But when I'm with my ex it doesn't feel wrong in any way and I don't feel guilty when I'm with him either. Confused xxx
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reader, cherub +, writes (11 July 2006):
 Hi confused
So am I.You said you love your bf very much,from what wrote and reading between the lines you seem to love yourself much much more above anyone else including your bf.So,be honest and do the mature thing and tell him you are too free spirited to stay true to one relationship,enjoy your life and when you are really ready to stay with one person then do it and be happy.
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reader, AvocadoMilkTea +, writes (11 July 2006):
 People often associate sex and love/companionship as one and the same, but as you can see, that is a deception of social acceptance. It's true that when you're in love, you want to make your partner happy, pleasure him/her, give him/her your all, and so on. However, sex is a complementing factor and not a primary reason of love. Sex is one of the things that can make up a relationship.
So in this case, when u have sex with your ex, you are doing it for the purpose of pleasure. The catalyst is your lingering and possibly fading emotions for your ex, and possibly sex is a lot better and more powerful with the ex than it is with your boyfriend.
Now mind you, if this is something you like, this may also be something your boyfriend doesn't. So ultimately, you have to decide - A) do you continue sleeping around with the ex behind his back, B) or do you continue sleeping with the ex with your bf's acceptance, or C) do you break it off with your bf and find someone who accepts polygamy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2006): Hmmm. That doesn't sound good or healthy. Having remorse is a good thing lack of it is very concerning.
Why would you not have guilt feelings? Are you morally arrested or is there more here I am failing to see more that would lead you to believe that what you did was excuseable. There is no such thing.
Why would you even consider "sleeping" with the Ex. How can the Ex be comfortable with sleeping with another man's woman. Is the Ex comfortable in helping women cheat? I don't think that is an attractive quality in a man.
Again I have to ask how in the heck did you allow yourself to be in a situation where you would act the way you did.
If you love your boyfriend the way you claim then you owe him the truth. He needs to know so he can decide if he wants to be with someone who could go out and hurt him and if he is willing to forgive and work on it. He has to know if he can trust and rely on you now and into the future.
Stop being with the Ex. What are you doing, self destructing?
You said yourself that you love your boyfriend and a woman who is in love will kick the EX out of her life for good. It was already proven that you can not be trusted in the Ex's presence.
Love your boyfriend. Give him the truth he deserves. Be accountable. Respect the outcome.
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