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writes: okay so my dads best friend is 8 years younger than my dad so he is 30. any ways he lives with us in our house with me and my dad . my dad is divorced because my mum is a alcoholic.anyways i came back from school on wednesday and i had stayed behind i got home about 5 30 pm and i knew my dad was working and i thought this friend of my dads would have been out anyways i walked in so drained not much make up on like you do when you think you have a house to your self.so i walked in dropped my bag on the floor and took my jacket off and walked into the kitchen when i heard someone upstairs in the bathroom asif th shower was on .. so i walked up and knocked on the door and shuoted who's there. so it is my dads friend -the lodger-so he opens the door and walked out with just a tiny towel around his dick.so later i am in the kitchen making tea so i made us both something etc...later that night i made my move i don't know why but i just did ...i kissed him and he kissed back i was quiet suprised anyways yes one thing led to another and we had great sex and the same happened on thursday and again tonight but ..i am asking..is it wrong?should we stop?should we tell my dad ?please help me ?it is legal so please no comments on that please
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): What is the harm? You initiated it. Why on earth would you want to tell your father? To ruin his friendship with this person? To ruin your relationship with your father? Nothing good can come from you telling your father. If you have already stopped it, it's done. He certainly is not going to tell your father. If you regret doing it, then it's a lesson learned. You're definitely not the first person who's learned a lesson from a sexual encounter. If you're of legal age, maybe it wasn't the best thing of this guy to do, but put yourself in his place. A girl -- of legal age -- knocks on the door when you're in the shower...hmmmm. Then she comes up to you later that night and kisses you. What healthy man would honestly say no in that situation? No one was scarred for life by this. Chalk it up to experience.
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (1 December 2010):
 Hey anonymous, why are you so judgmental? People are human, we all make mistakes. Calm down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): Glad to hear that OP and good to know you did the right thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answers they have NOT fallen on deaf ears i am no longer sleeping with this man and we are just friends he has even got his own place now ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): i am going to be very bold and make a very very insensitive statement: the aunts have given invaluable advice her (thank you!) but i am certain you all know that the OP has not even considered anything you have told her. she will continue having sex with this adult (hey he gets free board and he gets to screw his best friends daughter) so he is milking this situation. our OP, cannot even identify the wrong doing here and she chooses not to hear anything you all have advised.
Sorry aunts but in this situation your advice has fallen on deaf ears.
LoveGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): This is a very hard situation to deal with. If this guy is your dad's best friend, your father will not take the news well. Sometimes, ignorance is bliss. In this situation, it is only for you to decide. I don't agree with your father's friends actions and I think he is engaging in a male fantasy with you. I would recommend that you end the relationship and move on from this encounter. Sex only complicates. I hope that you are using protection. Good luck with your decision.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (28 November 2010):
I always say never bring adults in on your kids; they always end up getting screwed. He doesn’t see a problem with this in any form. He came out of the shower want to have sex with you. Heck I would say he came out of the shower molesting you. I think you should be honest with your father especially if you didn’t use protection.
Honesty is the key to everything and telling the truth will set you free. First, be honest to yourself. You wanted to get laid and are it wrong or right? That one that you will to live with, this: “one thing led to another” is a universal lie…
You two decide to fuck and that’s what you did. Now run tell dad what you two been up too. You’re wondering if the age is a factor. Is it wrong to want him? That answer can only be answer by you two. I would rethink a guy that would come out nude to a child. If you were 18 I would have a different opinion.
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reader, Princessmamma +, writes (28 November 2010):
Ure dad will be so upset with u if u tell him and probably kick the lodger out. U should stop having sex with him and from personal expirience u r far to young and u would want to ruin ures and ure dads relationship if he just happened to find out or worse walk in on u two he would be furious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): I completely disagree on people saying she should tell her dad. I'm just putting myself in her position really. If I did this and my dad found out, he'd be extremely disappointed in me, heart broken, angry, upset, etc and the list goes on. I just wouldn't want to hurt his feelings. Also, for my own sake. I'd most likely feel uncomfortable around my father for the rest of my life because of him knowing I did this. I'd be different around him.
But obviously, every parent is different so I have no idea how this girls dad will react. I just think it's a bad move telling him. It's not like she's a little girl and she doesn't know what she's doing. If she's old enough to have sex and yes, it is legal (if she does live in the UK that is) then she's old enough to deal with the consequences of it, etc. It was her choice. I think she should just stop doing it as it is wrong and hope her father never finds out.
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reader, Simply Jane2011  +, writes (27 November 2010):
 hmmm, im concerned for you hunn, i should tell your dad, You might get into a load of trouble and so will his friend but youl feel loads better once you have told him
Yes i know its legal, i lived in england too but he is older than you and it isnt right, unless you two havr feelings for each other the chances of your dad accepting that his little girl did this are slim, Just be open and Honest with your dad and see how things go
:) Simply Jane
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni am not a virgin but i was ... he took my virginity yes
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (27 November 2010):
Is it legal? Really? Here in the US that's illegal. (Not trying to be rude, but that's interesting to me).
Anyway, do you think it is wrong to sleep with your father's best friend? The man your father is trusting to live in his home with his daughter, his baby girl, is engaging in sex with her and under his own roof.
Immoral,yes. If it wasn't would you have even asked the question?
You need to stop. I'm assuming that you weren't a virgin or you wouldn't have initiated the kiss, but he still should have stopped it as he is the adult.
I think you or your dad's best friend should tell him, he has a right to know and if you don't want to tell your dad, then don't. But your dad's going to find out eventually and when he does I'm sure your dad's friend is going to be out on the street. I hope this helps.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): yes, this is wrong for soooooo many reasons! you need to stop, and you need to tell your dad! this man needs to be out of your house so that you are not tempted to do this again!
and stop having sex until you get married!
TELL YOUR DAD!
Abby 15
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Let's not get into whether its legal or not, let's talk moral. You are amoral bec YOU are playing adult games with this man old enough to be your father. Stop banging the lodger, or else the lodger will find his sorry ass on the street. I am assuming you were not a virgin, therefore the blaseness of the sex?
U don't sound sorry or concerned so what is your problem really.
Does any aunts here really think this kid will listen to any one of us here?
LoveGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Yes its wrong!
Your going behind your dads back and sleeping with his best friend who is in his 30 where you are a teenager. Its sick wrong and perverted for him to take advantage of you like that.
If I were you I would tell my dad and end it with his friend!
Its wrong. He is probably bragging to his buddies. "Oh, i slept with a teenage girl"
tell you Dad!!! its for the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): @strongfb if the op is 16, in the UK it's leagal.
but it is still very wrong, a 30 year old man taking advantage on a 16 year old girl.
Tell your Dad!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): I think this is very wrong, you should stop. Are you and your dad close? I can't imagine you are if you're sleeping with his best friend and doing it behind his back in his own house. Also, you're not respecting your father doing this.
Obviously he isn't a very good friend of your dads after all - As proven.
If I was you, I would no way, ever on earth tell my dad and hope he never finds out as I know he'd kill him and be extremely disappointed in me. But it's up to you whether you want to carry on sleeping with him or want to tell your dad.
Just be aware of the consequences that if you don't want your father to know and you carry on sleeping with him he may find out the hard way (catch you both) or his friend may tell your dad himself if he gets in too deep, or has a guilty conscience.
I think you should stop for your dads AND your own sake.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Your dad is going to kill him. If you are old enough to have sex you are also old enough to tell this lodger to stop this thing, and move out. Make sure you are not pregnant first. Your relationship with your dad, his trust and respect for you is more important than exciting sex with his friend. Not seeing him again is the best promise of not repeating mistakes. Sex itself is not wrong, but hurting people's feelings is. The only good purpose telling your dad is to have yourself protected, and your dad only wants the best for you. You decide if you want to tell your dad because that could mean no late night partyings, no drinking, or worse, no boyfriend as long as you are still dependent on him.
In case if you are wondering if you can become his girlfriend, forget it. This guy broke your dad's trust. Who wants an underground relationship while straining the father daughter relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): Wow!!! I kinda envy you. Talk to him about it. Good luck. An have funn.
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reader, Dance4 +, writes (26 November 2010):
Umm.... It depends on the state the state you live in. But you really need to... I dont know where to start.. This is like a bad movie. This wont end well... You can keep sleepin with him and lett your dad find out. Or u can tell ur dad and he could end up hurting his best friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): Yes it is wrong, tell ur dad's friend ur going tell ur dad
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