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writes:I have fallen for my best friends boyfriend. I didn't think anything would happen, but last week we ended up sleeping together. He's joking that it is bound to happen again, and we're in constant contact but I feel like the worst person on the planet.I haven't felt like this about anyone for ages and I almost feel like this could be my last chance. I'm under no pretences that he'll break up with his girlfriend for me, but when we're together I feel so special that I don't know if I can give up that feeling. Should I tell my best friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): Thanks guys for your responses. To be honest, you are all telling me what I already know deep down.
Yes, it happened again last night, but afterwards we had a really long discussion and agreed that someone is going to get hurt and that we should call it a day. I'm not going to tell my friend as I feel it would only be so that I can feel better about myself without the guilty conscience and would cause her a lot of hurt in the process.
I know I have really strong feelings for this guy, but I am through being selfish. And so is he.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): In an ideal society we all would be having open relationships. But we dont live in a perfect world. Boundaries are there becoz of the green eyed monster called jealousy. You have crossed one such boundary. Now it is very complicated. If it only involved you, I would say you should keep this a secret from your friend becoz she will most probably get hurt very much. But it involves her BF and it looks like he doesnt regret what happened like you do. You tell him to confess to your friend and tell him that you are going to confess. Even if the reaction wont be pleasant, you wont have to live with a guilty conscience. Facing the consequences of your act is the right thing to do. If you are lucky, your friend may be that rare person who has overcome the green eyed monster. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): Who do you think you are?????
I don't think you even care about your so called BEST FRIEND! How would you ever break it to her? Oh "I.m sleeping with your man and I aint gonna stop....im so sorry (but I aint gonna stop)....boo hoo hoo". I dont think so. I think you are selfish and have no morals BUT YES you should tell your friend and hopefully she will see sense and dump you both.
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reader, Mr Guy +, writes (16 December 2008):
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well the only advice i can give is RUN your best friend will kill you. its not very fair. and i would tell your FormaR best mate as soon as possible
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 December 2008):
 I don't think you can still refer to her as your best friend. And if you think he won't break up with her so he can be with you, why are you lowering yourself to just being someone he screws? One minute you feel like the worst person in the world then suddenly you feel so "special", does he drug you before he has his boink? Go ahead and tell your "friend", she'll be needing to spend some time finding a person who will truly be her friend.
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