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writes:basicaly... i met a guy on a train we got talking and he asked for my number... then 2 months later he called mme asking if i wanted to go to a house he was at as he and his mate were housittin and bored... i got very drunk and slept with him... the next night 2 more girls came round and after a string of events i ended up in bed with his mate... i stayed there a further 2 nights and we all got on really well as mates but i really liked him not his mate... on the tuesday his friend went home and i was waiting for him to return from work while i was waiting his mum and 2 sisters came round i had a beer and a chat with them and they invited me to his uncles 40th, that night me and him had a chat about the weekends events and slept witheachother... we spoke in the week and i went to the party... we went back to the house and had amazing sex and it was really nice the next day i really like him and feel comforable with him i stayed the next night too but he kept bringing up his friend and what happend between us... i crid i felt so bad... when i left we kissed and he said text me i did an now hes just ignoring to me i dont know what to do.... help please....
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reader, Full moon temptress1 +, writes (18 March 2009):
You are abit young to be getting into this sort of situation.I would think of it as a lucky escape.You are a young women,not a child, but you really shouldn't be doing this sort of thing.Like the other poster said you should have more respect for yourself.I'm unsure of your family background,but you are only 16/17 you should be home at night most of the time,not out sleeping with different boys.Please take care of yourself.XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): Well, are you surprised? I honestly don't like "slut-shaming" and I'm sure you have your reasons, but when you do this kind of thing, can you honestly expect to be in any different a situation than you are now? Why did you sleep with both of them? Why did you agree to go over to a boy's house when you had only met him on the train?
I don't want to scare you, but bad things happen when you continue on like this. You will, I repeat WILL get raped, get hurt emotionally, get an STD, lose respect of your friends or land up pregnant. It's just a matter of time before someone hurts you.
The boy you mention is ignoring your texts because he has lost respect for you. He thinks that you will just sleep with anyone. Is that true? Maybe try to give the boys a break for a while, and the underage drinking, and try build your self esteem up a little. What is your worth as a human being? What are your talents and dreams? What can you bring to a relationship that isn't sex?
I know all this may seem harsh, but I honestly feel that, at your age especially, you are doing yourself a disservice.
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reader, Full moon temptress1 +, writes (18 March 2009):
You are abit young to be getting into this sort of situation.I would think of it as a lucky escape.You are a young women,not a child, but you really shouldn't be doing this sort of thing.Like the other poster said you should have more respect for yourself.I'm unsure of your family background,but you are only 16/17 you should be home at night most of the time,not out sleeping with different boys.Please take care of yourself.XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): It's over. I'm not calling you a slut but when you sleep with friends that sluttish behaviour. I can understand if you have done it in a 1 year span but you slept with him one night and his friend the next. That is whorish. Leave him alone, he realizes what you did and doesn't want to get to know someone who does what you did.
Don't create anymore problems. Just walk away and learn from what you did. If his mum and sister knew what you did they would not have invited you to the uncles party.
How old are you, your column says 16-17yr. You are too young to be doing this to your self. No self respecting woman should ever do that, you will only regret it later.
I'm not judging you, I'm just trying to help.
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