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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I slept with a random guy last night. He was my first. I was really drunk! I just feel weird right now. I feel kinda dirty and kinda glad its over. Why do I feel so different?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): Did you fuck or did you spend the night in addition to sex?
Sex is one thing but trusting a stranger while you sleep is another...
I don't like the attitude. There is no such thing as going out getting drunk and just happening to end up having sex. Virgins go to clubs, pubs, bars and parties too!! Although you were when you went to this one, you must have been before and got drunk without such effect.
You either respect yourself and subconsciously give off the wrong vibe and don't have sex or you go looking for sex either directly (on the pull) or indirectly (i.e. what happens happens). You wanted to lose it now you messed up, feeling indifferent, and are likely to have an attachment/sleep around issue.
I don't mean it offensive, so I avoided any terms.. its the wake up call now. You can let things be natural (what happens happens) or focus on regaining some dignity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Hi
Please don't feel dirty or bad, you just have to be sensible go get checked out. Use this experience to help you and be sober and in a special situation the next time. Yes virginity gone whooops! nothing you can do now, but learn from it, but do remember the boy is also human and has feelings too, he is not a monster so no need to feel dirty.
Wish you well :) spunky monkey
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reader, dirtball +, writes (3 October 2010):
 How much do you know about the Guy you were with? You may feel dirty because you now have an STD. Get yourself checked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): but why thats the norm of that society...get drunk, have sex, etc. it be wise to think before you act so you dont feel so different cause unfortunately (NEWSFLASH) alcohol can easily distort ur capacity to make a prudent decision.
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reader, essential_tee +, writes (3 October 2010):
you feel different because u just lost ur virginity. although it was very irresponsible of you to have random sex with a complete stranger, u shouldn't feel dirty either. i only wish that you had waited to have sex with someone special the first time around. ah well, you've only had sex once so its not the end of the world. just used better judgement next time.
p.s. i hope you used protection too.
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