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writes:Here it goes, me and this guy have been friends for a long time. An have been off and on again FWB's over the past three years. We have talked about being in a relationship, but never ended up in one cause he says he is in love with another women. Even though he always has tried to convince me into one. Two months ago he showed up on my doorstep talking about how he's not in love with her anymore and he doesn't know what love is. We talked for a few hours and ended up having sex. Afterwards he left and we haven't spoken since because come to find he is still with the other women.This mans knows that i love him and have been in love with him for awhile now and right now i'm just really torn up that he did this. He took me off our social networking site. I don't know what to do. I shouldn't still care for him, but i do and it feels like my heart is just breaking. What can i do to move on and feel better?
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (22 May 2011):
I would have said you should tell him it's all or nothing, but it seems that he's already made that decision.
Now you have to go along with that. If he decides to get back in touch, you have to say he is too late and he had his chance.
Friends with benefits is never a good idea because you're essentially using each other for casual sex and inevitably one starts falling for the other and it ends in tears.
That's what happens much of the time and you just need to learn from this and move on.
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