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writes:ok so my boyfriend is in New Mexico at the moment and i hate being away from him and we talk every night but he always wants me to come up with the topics. I HAVE RAN OUT OF THINGS. but he gets mad at me when i dont have anything and we just ended our phone convo in a fight because he broght up one of his ex's and it upset me a little because yeah and i let him know and then he got more mad so im trying to please him with having things to talk about but i have nothing and we know each other like the back of our hands so i need help thinking outside the box. please give me some topics to talk about
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (22 May 2011):
 does he have topics or is he just waiting for you to lead the convo everytime? you can only really have things to talk about if you are both leading quite full lives so make sure you still get out and do things with your friends, talk about school, let him talk about his, watch the news to keep up to date with whats happening in the world, read books, magazines, look up interesting facts on the internet, take up a new hobby to keep you busy while he's away - this will also give you something to talk about. maybe limit your phone calls so that you don't talk every single night? you can still keep in touch with text messages in between times
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (22 May 2011):
 Hi
You cant always be expected to to be the one to start off a conversation , and you need to tell him this. But you could always talk about a new film you would like to see together when you meet back up. or places you would like for him to take you one day. But really a conversation should flow easily,and him talking about an ex is really not a wise thing to do. if you have ran out of things to say to eachother then maybe your relationship has run its course?
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (22 May 2011):
 go to the store and buy a news magazine, and then you can talk about what's going on in the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): talk about what you are going to do when you meet next. that should be exciting.
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reader, Odds +, writes (22 May 2011):
 That's because he's in New Mexico. You know what happens there? Nothing, not since the last nuclear test. So naturally the conversation consists mostly of stuff you have to say, and it's easy to run out.
Start talking about dreams and ambitions, or lofty ideals, instead of things that have already happened or people in your lives. Talk about what places you want to go, and why (I've always wanted to go to El Teide mountain in Spain, for instance, which has some of the best stargazing on the planet, and might actually make it this fall). Talk about what you hope to do in high school or college. Talk about a book you read (which may require reading new books, or books outside your usual genres). Talk about some moral or spiritual idea you've heard of, and discuss it to its logical conclusion.
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