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writes:Hi. I'd really like some advice or opinions from people who have been in a similar situation to me. Firstly, I have been with my girlfriend for 5.5 years ( I am also a girl) and we have just decided to break up. We both agreed it was for the best. One of the reasons for this was that in the last couple of weeks I have become friends with another woman. We went out drinking about a week ago and ended up kissing. We then went back to her place and slept together. She has a long term boyfriend so I assumed it would be a drunken one-time mistake. The problem is that it is a week later and we have been inseperable since, and slept together several more times ( while sober).She has never been with another woman before, and doesn't really know how shes feeling. We went out last night and could hardly keep our hands off each other. She says she has no conscience when it comes to her boyfriend,even though she loves him, which makes me feel bad. My question is I guess: should I continue this affair with her? I have broken up with my partner and this new woman makes me really happy, but here I am alone because she's spending time with her boyfriend. I know that it might sound really stupid, and that I should just forget her, but I can't stop thinking about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): Go with the flow and try to keep your emotional barriers up as this could end badly for you, she's got a b/f and your the first girl she slept with, she may just be experimenting so if I was you, go with the flow and see it as fun, try not too get too attached too her or if you already fallen for her then ask her to choose.
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (20 October 2007):
 Hey. Your feelings come across loud and clear. Exciting isn't it. Where do you think it is going to lead? Where do you want it to lead? It's very early days. What does she want? There is so much more for you to know before you can decide. All you know is that you are both attracted to each other. If you are worried about your heart - then yes, what is happening involves a little more risk. Try and protect it (if u can). If you are feelng bad for her man - then only you can decide which part of your psyche is going to win - conscience - or desire. As you examine these feelings - you actually get to know yourself more in the process - which is quite interesting in itself, and beneficial for the future. One thing you have discovered already is that it seems your conscience is greater than your lover's conscience. Take care - let us know what happens or what you decide.
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