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writes:I dont understand your culture. As i came from different culture background...I need to know something about dating..Do you usually guys kiss in the first date or have sex? I dont like to have sex nor kiss from the first night, but this may turn away the girl!..do girls here usually expects the man will kiss them or have sex with them in the first date?I really don't understand what do you mean by dating exactly, does it mean just to get to know eachother, or it means we are going to establish the relationship already?!I'm little bit confused i need to understand what usually girls expect from man to do in the first date and will they get annoyed if they get kissed in the first date?..I think its kind of unprofessional as its shows i only want her for sexual pleasure....Thanks alot...Respect to all...I'm glad i joined to this great website... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Well, if she sends signals that she likes you (example. lingering at the end of dates, looking you in the eyes etc.. you should be able to pick up) than you should be a gentelmen and kiss her lightly on the lips; If she lets you. She might also (if she REALLY likes you) grab your head and keep kissing you. In which case kiss all you want. But still be a gentelman, don't have sex on the first date, EVEN if there is VERY strong sexual desire (for both of you). If she says she wants to have sex, say she'll have to wait and see. ;)
Tease her a bit and wait untill SHE is comepletly ready.
Good luck ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): I think martini and Waterloo Sunset have it right. It really depends on how the 2 of you feel at the end of the date. I think that a kiss is definitely appropriate at your age, but only if you feel like it. A few women might want sex, but not trying if she wants it is a lot better than trying if she didn't want it. I think women around your age are more inclined to want to wait for sex after at least a few dates. When I met my current wife, we were both in our mid 30s and divorced. We both wanted sex on the first date but I made no attempt at trying. I just kissed her. She appreciated that I treated her with respect instead of a sex object, even though I think women in their 30s are more inclined to want sex early in a relationship more than women in their 20s. Sex is a part of affection/loving and being close. Even though many of us were brought up to think it is dirty, we should realize that it is a normal part of adult behavior. The 4 to 6 weeks that Waterloo Sunset said is appropriate if there is some beginnings of love there. Don't do anything that you don't feel comfortable with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): I think a nice peck on the lips is lovely at the end of a first date. Then maybe a snog on the second. But keep the sex side of it special. Maybe 4-6 weeks after meeting each other. Plan it so you are not on mutual land. Go away for the weekend and make it special. The first time always should be. But that is my view.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): This really depends on the individual. Generally a lot of people view Westernized people regardless of their ascendents, as more liberal and open. Mind you, Hong Kong is the way it is because it was conquered by the British, so I consider HK as partially Westernized.
As for girls on first dates, like I said, it depends on the individual and how much pressure they receive from their surroundings - friends, media, personal motives, weaknesses, and desires. Plus first kisses depends on the mood and environment, and whether you two click or not. Just because Canada and America may be seen as more liberal than other countries, it doesn't mean all strip down to our bare bottoms, spread our legs and expect sex on the first date!
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