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writes: I have known this guy for about three years. And after a few months of breaking up with his girlfriend we started hanging out more often ( just as friends) then he started telling me how he always kinda had a thing for me and how much he had started to a really like me. After about 3-4 weeks we started sleeping together and I started really liking him. He also used to msg me heaps saying how he missed me and wanted to see me. Then recently he stopped msging as much. Still every day just not saying how much he missed me. I got drunk and ended sending him a msg asking him how he felt and that I didn't want to be lead on because I didn't think he was that into me anymore. He never replied to that and I then sent him a msg the next day saying sorry for putting my drunken emotional crap on him. And he said it was all good but he has been abit distant towards me now and I hvnt seen him in a week now. Which is weird.What should I do? I really like him. And can't stop thinking about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): Sorry but there's nothing you can do, you were his easy rebound lay and now that you're talking about having real feelings for him and hence breaking the rules of fwb he's backing off.
Look he's probably now realizing what a mistake this is, you've basically let him know you want more and instead of stepping up to the plate he's now backed off.
Expect the "sorry I really like you but I'm not ready for a relationship" conversation soon. You were a rebound OP and you can either continue with this and get hurt or can tell him how you really feel.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 December 2011):
 You should accept that you are just the girl he is having sex with ( if you are the only one !...) so he does not want to see or be part of any " emotional crap " from you. If he can have you at his conditions, no pressures, no drama, no demands, he'll be happy to carry on, if you start being " emotional " and " making a fuss " that will put him off and make him distance himself.
FWB is supposed to be casual, low-maintenance and uncomplicated . If you can't or won't keep it this way, maybe this is not the right situation for you and you should search for something more emotionally nourishing.
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