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writes:hi i just recently found out that the father of my kids was seeing somebody else last year i seen everything what they wrote to each other about them sneaking around and seeing this other woman mocking me askin my bf if my bf would take her to my place i am so upset by all this i have no clue what to do i just found out a few days ago i freaked out on him asking him about all this all he told me was it was a long time ago but from what i seen they was talking in october. and this other woman is my bf's bestfriends older sistter so everytime my bf goes over to his friends place he would see her there he tells me he wont do it again but its hard to believe him since he was messing around while i was pregnant with our son and even when i was pregnant with our oldest. Will this ever end this lil fling between them ? he says he will change for the better by him not drinking anymore. He also says she keeps hitting on him and he turned her down alot of times. ugh i have no clue what to do cuz things right now are okay so far he hastnt tried to go out at all just my innerthoughts is bugging me i dk if i can get over it since she will always see him regardless cuz of his bestfriend!!! :(
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reader, Crazykatee  +, writes (19 December 2011):
I wouldnt be able to be with him, cheatin while carryin his kid, na not a chance, id kik his ass out!!
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (19 December 2011):
 There is more to this than you are yet aware of. You are going to need more help and support than this forum will give you. You think that you can feel secure if he doesn't go out, but you have these inner thoughts. Those are very commonly the hardest part to get over. Not everyone will be able to get past what they call the mental movies.
What you really want to know is will he do it again. Current research says that cheating is a chemical addiction. The old saying that "stolen watermelons are sweeter" is literally true. Cheaters tend to go on and cheat again and again, even cheating on the new partner.
Just as people can stop smoking or drinking, some people have successfully stopped cheating. There is hope. both of you will most likely need counseling. This is not the easy or trivial thing it looks like in the movies.
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