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writes:Hi everyone, I'm in a relationship with a guy much younger than me. That doesn't show though. I'm hopelessly inlove with him. I can see the signs that he loves me but he's hiding his feelings and emotions from me. He say he won't get married but at the same time he says the only person he'll ever say I love you to is the one he'll marry.He accidentally confessed to one of my friends that the person he wants to marry is a bit older than him. He's a bit afraid to reveal his inner emotions at this stage and he wants to sort out his life first. To me he once said he has his own agendas he'll discuss with me at the right time. Am I that person?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 February 2016):
 Age shouldn't be an issue here. If you love him well then great, he may not tell you he loves you, but they are only words, and if he shows you he loves you well then again that is great.
If he is not sure about marriage yet, well then maybe he needs time, what age is he exactly? Also some people don't want marriage, that's okay as well as long as he is honest with you. Have you both been in a relationship long? I wouldn't rush things. A lot of men cannot express there emotions, but it doesn't mean that they don't feel them. I think if he treats you right and you are happy with him then let that be enough for now.
Me or anyone else cannot tell you if it is you he wants to marry. Is he secretive? Can you trust him? When you say he has his own agenda for life, then am hoping that means it will involve you, but for now, just enjoy the time use spend together.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 February 2016):
 I cannot speak for your younger man. Only he knows what's going on. How much younger is he?
How long have you been with him?
Do his friends know you?
Does he go out in public with you or are you just at home having sex?
Unless he comes right out and says "NOT YOU" I won't marry you. I don't love you, then time may be what he needs
Mu husband is 13 yrs younger than I am. When we started it was fun and games for both of us. I did not want anything serious. This alone gave him room to grow feelings.
He told me "I'm never getting married, marriage is stupid" he also told me "I never say I love you"
well two years later he realized that he didn't want to lose me and he did love me.
over the last three years we've been married he now says I love you much more regularly since he knows what it is now.
don't force it.
don't make assumptions.
don't second guess
if you can just sit back and go with the flow it may reveal itself in time
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