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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello Aunties!I don't want to use the word addicted, but I recently discovered online sex shows where women interact in sexy ways for just a few dollars. They will strip down and talk dirty to me. Most of them are REALLY young (19-20) and at my age (40's) I hate to say it but it is a treat. For a few bucks we interact, I can see them naked, and there is some personal connection where we know each others names and interact at some base level. It seems more personal and affordable than strip clubs or whores (neither of which I am engaged with). My concern is that I am really beginning to like this more than interacting with women in real situations. For $10-$20 I can spend a whole night with a young, friendly, naked girl who gives me a lot of attention. Sure at the end of the day I am alone but that's not unlike a lot of dates I have gone on.Is this a healthy sexual outlet or am I headed down the wrong path? I feel bad about it mostly because I feel society would judge me. However, every experience I have had has been great! I like it, the girls are friendly, and I feel I am getting a lot of bang for my buck. So then why do I feel guilty about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2016): I see nothing wrong with doing something like this occasionally, but it does seem as if you are becoming addicted. There is no real personal connection on any meaningful level whatsoever. These are not real relationships and the only reason these young women are friendly to you is because you are paying them.
Don't you miss the physical sensation and pleasure of holding a real woman in your arms, kissing her, feeling her body near your body, making love or just plain having hot uninhibited sex? I'm not judging you, but it does seem as if you're missing out on a lot of real life fun and pleasure.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 February 2016):
 It is okay to experiment and try new things. We only live once after all, if you are single then you are not doing any harm. You ask is it a bad path to go down, well if you feel like you are getting more and more hooked then yes it can be. A lot of these women know what to say to a man so that he keeps coming back. You are getting a sex show, they are getting there money so its a win win. I have to say though you may feel a personal connection, but to them you are only a number, someone who is paying them to perform. Quite like an actress. The better they are at there job the more you will keep coming back to them. You say it is cheaper than strip shows or whores, but why do you feel the need to go to any of these? I think things like this should be used as fun, not on a regular basis, because you may end up being very alone if you isolate yourself to this world.
You mention yourself that you are already scared this is more exciting than meeting a woman in real life. That's where the problems could lie ahead because you need to remember that nothing beats a connection with a real woman, someone who you are not paying to strip. Companionship is important in life. You may end up alone after one date, but that is natural enough, it takes time and effort to get to know a woman.
In my opinion I don't think it is a healthy sexual outlet, I think it might end on you being hooked and replacing it with a loving relationship in your life.
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