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writes:hey i know this is the usual because many girls post this but im 17 and in 11th grade in love with my History teacher (30)....this all started 31/2 years ago....in 9th i would just see him teach lessons in his room....and i thought about nothing but him(the reason why i looked in his classroom is because a boy i liked was there but i ended up focusing on him)....well to make the long story short i thought i simply liked him and that i would get over it....but i never realized that until i had him 10th grade....day after day i ended falling for him more his smiles his stares,when he would get near me and play around with me man those days were beautiful that is until i hit 11th grade i dont have him anymore but i see him most everyday and we have gotten closer....i know alot more about him and he knows about me....and that is what made me realize i had more than just a crush....its love....i care about him him that's why i try to stay far away as possible but lately i cant take it anymore not the fact that i dont see him the fact that one girl in my school is ALL upon him and im like she gets to get away with it and not me....i have to hide my feelings when she is all open??man i hate that!!!!what should i do??it just feels so right when im near him talking to him....when i look into his eyes i see my happiness....i dream about him at night....that girl is making me wanna tell him my feelings but my question is should i??or should i wait until next year??i dont know because he might leave this year and i might not see him again but i have his email and he has mine so what should i do??i mean i dont see him as a teacher and belive it or not i dont admire him,i see him as a regular person a man with feelings....do you think he would ever be interested in me??man im feeling lost!!!!but one thing i dont regret is loving him....please help what should i do??
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reader, anonymous08  +, writes (7 June 2008):
 i think you should tell him over your email and hopefully all goes well i realy hoipe you find happiness with this man im 14 and i have been told that he likes me and hes doing the wrong thing hopefully the teacher will do the same for you i knowim not making any sense lol but you should go for it just dont get caught.......
my teacher has such an amazing smile and humour i love him 2 bits so do many people but i think if you can have it go
for it i can have it though i just dont want it xx/.
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reader, LBuff +, writes (20 April 2008):
 heya i completely understand how you are feeling. i think i am in love with my teacher. because he acts natural around us i see him as just a man. not a person in postion of authority. we tend to flirt back and forht quite while one time he said i was beautiful; however i am aware that as long as i am undeage (15) and in school nothing will ever happen but it still breaks my heart, i think the best thing you can do is either wait a year til you are legal or try and break off links with him. good luck and bext wishes. x
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reader, Tevote  +, writes (20 April 2008):
 Ok well it sounds like you really care deeply for him. And don't even waste your energy on the other girl. This is your life and about you and him if you want something to be there then forget about her and focus on getting to know him better. Don't tell him how you feel yet, i think you should just continue getting to know him, ignore the girl and if he does happen to leave you can always email him and tell him or ask him for his number if you want to tell him over the phone, or even go somewhere with him if you wish to tell him in person, depending on how open he is to doing any of them. BUt yeah you wont get into trouble if you tell him when he has left, but if you tell him while he is still there and you're still at the same school it can get really bad.
Be careful and make sure you do the right thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): hun teacher student relationships are forbidden because there's some dodgy sick manipulative perves out there who want to take advantage of minors, who are inexperienced and vunerable. you are not a minor, you are practically an adult and you seem pretty level-headed. if you 100% sure that it's love go for it however-i would maybe wait a year before you do but otherwise what't stopping you he's not in a relationship, he's not a sleezeball, he obviously has feelings for you and it's becoming a common view now that students above 16 should just screw the "rule" mentally it's just for protection really and to check they are responsible people who dont abuse their role-of course if it's a situation that's love with a matured student this rules this out. Just rememeber that you would have to be careful because we all know the law donesnt see it that way and i have complte faith in you that you will be responsible and careful to protect him. take care m dear :) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): Ahh! I know exactly what you mean, i'm going through something very similar but he actually had the feelings for me and initial disgust and or fear turned into love. He got married though a few months ag o and now I'm left with all the 'broken pieces' I told him how I felt and he told the guidance consleor who told the principal long story short they said I can't go by him...I wanted to die. lol, there's always that flirty girl who hangs around the man you like and it seems like so messed up, because you're the one who dreams about him and builds their world around him and that person gets to flaunt her shit around him. My only advice is just tell him as soon as possible if you're 500% sure, I wish I would've done the same. But I haven't given up and neither should you.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 April 2008):
It might ruin his career if he started seeing a student.
Would you employ a teacher who might come on to the kids?
Wait till you have left school, then email him about your feelings.
If you really love him you can wait a year or two. If it is just a crush then you will get over him.
Test yourself and find out.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): It's normal for a girl your age to have a crush on thier teacher. But that's all it is. He was your teacher and to old for you. I would not tell him how you feel he sees you as a student and would get in trouble if you dated.I'm sorry but that kind of relationship is not appropriate. Believe me you will get over it. I have had crushes on teacher's as well and I got over it.Focus on boys your own age you have more in common and you will be happier. Good luck and God Bless.
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