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writes:I've been in a relationship with a guy for 2 and a half years now and I'm not sure what to do. Our relationship to an outsider would be considered good, we don't argue a lot and we treat other each other well. We've had our issues in the past like any other couple but we've since got past them and there's nothing in particular affecting us right now. With the exception of my feelings, which he has no idea about. We're both 19 and starting dating when we were 16, it seems like a long time for a couple as young as we are and it makes me wonder if my age is a factor. Recently, I've been finding myself wanting other men and reflecting on the past and what I could of changed so I could of ended up with a guy I once had a major crush on. It's crazy as this particular guy has not come to mind for a long time till now. My boyfriend can be incredibly immature at times and it really infuriates me, he's always been this way but it's affecting me now more than ever. Thing is, he can easily make me smile so it seems like I find the whole situation amusing when it's really quite the opposite. I have no dislike towards my boyfriend, I just see him as more of a friend now. It would crush him if I ended our relationship plus I'm not sure if I know how to be single anymore, I know it sounds ridiculous.Sorry about the ramble, I just needed some outside advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): Oh wow. I was in this situation at 15. I'm a year younger than you are now (almost 18), but I still hope I can help.
My relationship with my ex was absolutely perfect. We rarely fought, we treated each other well, there was no jealousy, we trusted each other one hundred percent, etc. But I broke up with him several times throughout our relationship because I liked other guys and it wasn't fair to him. However, after a year of going through this cycle and realizing I was only with him for his friendship--I was afraid breaking up with him would mean I'd lose his friendship--and after liking so many guys, I just broke up with him. It was under horrible circumstances and he hated me for about 6 months afterwards, but 2 years later, we are now really close friends and happy with other people. You just need to let him go find someone who loves him, and go find someone who you love.
It'll be hard at first; you'll miss the comfort of the relationship, but it will be worth it to find someone you have real feelings for.
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