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writes:I'm almost 15 years old and i'm with an older guy. He's 16 turning 17. We've been together for a while about afew months. We fell in love, or atleast I did. And yesterday out of the blue he asked me to join in on a threesome he wants to have with another girl... I feel like i'm not good enough for him or something...since he wants to have sex with someone else besides me. I told him i'd join but I don't know if I want to considering I have emotional problems. I don't know what to do. At first I said no and and he kept talking about it cause he was excited so I said yes. What should I do???? :O
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): I suggest if you are going to feel attacked and not agree with what people are telling you then you need to stay off dearcupid. You have had an answer or remark for everything anyone has said, when it's all right. Keep your legs closed girl... And don't ask for advice if you can't handle the truth.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 Maybe you need to find some that dont piss you off.
Having sex at your age is irresponsible and illegal.
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reader, iLoveYouBBY +, writes (1 October 2010):
iLoveYouBBY is verified as being by the original poster of the question@dmartin89: I'm going to be 15 in afew weeks and my boyfriend's not turning 17 for awhile. It's really not that big of an age diffrence I don't see what everyone's freaking out about. And I don't have any "girlfriends" they're too dramatic and girls just piss me off.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (19 September 2010):
You are only 14 years old..you are a child. I am 21 and I remember very vividly what it was like to be 14. Dont have sex, its illegal, your boyfriend will be put in jail if anyone finds out. Enjoy the rest of your childhood and teenage years before thinking about stuff like this.
I see that you think you are mature for your age; however the fact that you are asking this question gives evidence that you are very confused and you don't know yourself yet.
Let this guy go have sex with someone else, we will drop you once the deed is done. Go hang out with your girlfriends, watch some cool movies and nosh on popcorn and chocolate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): Oh btw USE a condom even tho u think its impossible to get pregnant after anorexia, ppl have been surprised before . I wouldn't do it, I mean you're already not keen so yeah itd be stupid to go through with it, tell. Him no.
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reader, Nime +, writes (19 September 2010):
 I'm sorry OP, I didn't mean to insult you, just musing out loud. I am sorry though. However it is a point you might consider; if you were to poll all the girls in your class on their level of maturity, I guarantee most, if not all, would respond that they are above average in that area. I believe 14 is far too young to be considering a threesome. A mature 14 year old keeps herself out of trouble, and this is just asking for it...
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reader, iLoveYouBBY +, writes (18 September 2010):
iLoveYouBBY is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Nime; I'm here for help, not for you to insult me.
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reader, Nime +, writes (17 September 2010):
Has there ever been a teenage girl who HASN'T thought she's very mature for her age?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 September 2010):
 Yes, be careful I know a married couple who invited a girl for a 3some and her husband ended up liking the other girl..thus causing some rift in the marriage. Personally, I wouldn't want my husband/boyfriend caressing another woman's breast let alone driving himself into her. And I'm not into munching so I wouldn't be into touching her or vice versa.
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reader, iLoveYouBBY +, writes (9 September 2010):
iLoveYouBBY is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ snwdream: We've known eachother for 2 years. We always had feelings for eachother but no one had the guts to say it. And he's not that much older than me. I'm very mature for my age, dating guys my age is just a bother. They're annoying, immature, rude and gross. And I can't get pregnant....I used to suffer from anorexia and it messed my fertility up. And this guy is my world. He's helped me alot. We promised eachother our virginity. I want to have sex with him, but not with another girl. I'd get too jealous. I talked to him about it today he said he didnt care if we did it or not.
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (9 September 2010):
No dont do it, especially at the age you are even if this was a 35 year old woman who had doubts i would still say no you are too young to even be having sex never mind a threesome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): Everyone has pretty much summed it up already. But I just want to make sure you understand, it's nothing wrong with you, I don't know any women myself who actually are comfortable with a threesome, it's a stupid fantasy that actually hurts feelings. Don't let him abuse you, find a better guy!! Good luck. You deserve better!
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reader, j.c.d.l +, writes (9 September 2010):
DONT do it. tell him that it make syou feel like your not good enough and if he still wants you to do it GET RID OF HIM. There will be emotional problems with jealousy, and you thinking back to being there, involved in your boyfriend having sex with someone else that will haunt your mind and possibly destroy your relationship anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): I agree LLindy87. This will end in disaster for you. Sweetie you are 14 years old and you have a lifetime ahead of you. This is something that most adults who try it, have problems dealing with the feelings they experience. Please dont do this.
Wow, you're only 14. Do you know all the dangers you could get into? Catching stds, pregnancies.. Even if you're protected it's not 100%. There is always chance.
And just because people in your school are getting into sexual stuff, doesn't mean you have to too. You could get a bad rep because of this behavior. I know there is a lot of pressure out there to experience it all, but please do not give in to that pressure. It will only leave you feeling empty. There is a time for all things, and you will know when that time is.
I wish you werent having sex yet,but if you are please be careful. Use birthcontrol and also make sure that he wears a condom. Remember the rule...no glove, no love.
I know that you feel that we older folks dont understand, but thats not the problem. The fact is we see teens everywhere who are disillusioned with life, they feel empty and hopeless, they feel used and cast aside and they arent even 20 yet. Dont be afraid to say no. mal
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reader, natasia +, writes (8 September 2010):
 You must tell him that you are sorry but you truly aren't comfortable with it, and you don't want to do it. If you get caught up in this without fully wanting to, it will be v damaging for you emotionally, and for your relationship. Persuade him to make do just with you!!
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (8 September 2010):
 you can be honest and tell him you're uncomfortable with it. When he asks why tell him what you said here. Explain that you're not ready to get that kinky, that he shouldn't want to sleep with anyone besides you and that it would be awful to see him naked with someone else besides you.
Also, on a side note I don't think threesomes do relationships that much good. Its like inviting disaster into the bedroom.
And being as you already agreed, just confront it starting with "So I've been thinking more about it and.."
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