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writes:This boy really confuses me... Please help. I said I still really like you he says he still really likes me, yet he broke up with me. How does that work? When I said I was confused he said he was too. What is going on?
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (31 August 2013):
Hi. I guess it also depends on how long you were going out together.
If it was for a year or two, well then perhaps it was that he was falling heavily in love with you, and was confused by those feelings.
And falling in love, can be quite intense.
And maybe it was the same for you also.
The feelings he had might have scared him off a bit, and that was the confusing part for him.
And what you were feeling might have confused you as well.
It might have been the very first time both of you have ever fallen in love with someone.
And when something like this is new, I guess it could be a bit confusing.
And especially, if you have never felt those sorts of feelings before.
He may have even felt a bit overwhelmed.
Well the main thing is you are NOT enemies, and you are still friends, so you can still hang around together, if that is what you both want.
And so all is not lost, so don't give up just yet.
Just be content for now, to be friends with him.
And see what happens with time.
It was probably a first - for both of you - for feeling those strong emotional feelings towards each other.
Even if you didn't both realize what was happening at the time.
I really think that's what it was.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah we were boyfriend and girlfriend. And I don't think it's to do with his schooling his parents know he isn't good at school (he is dyslexic) so he struggles and I don't think it had anything to do with his parents but I'm bit sure. Thanks for your help though. It made me think. And I've tried to talk to him about it but it just makes me even more confused....
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (30 August 2013):
Hi there. From what you say here - that he broke up with you - tells me that you were dating.
And so you were boyfriend and girlfriend.
Perhaps he felt that he was getting too seriously involved, and then realized this.
And he might have also thought it might affect his schooling as well.
Also, his parents may have advised him to slow down a little on the relationship, for the same reason.
And so now maybe he is just taking a step backwards.
It is probably nothing you said or did, so don't take it personally, because I don't believe it is personal.
For now, perhaps you should just be friends and be content with that.
You could always sit down with him and talk about it heart to heart.
And then you might get some more information.
He might just need some space.
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