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*shieebabiee
writes:I am a libra woman was with a cancer man.. and ended my relationship with a cancer man.Our relationship was very healthy sex, communication, etc...He broke it off because I told him I love him...but yet he said he was happy with me and I didn't do nothing wrong. If I wouldn't have told him he would of kept the relationship going. .. ( we were together for a year) in the beginning he told me loved me and I told him are you sure? Then the next month he said take it slow...now that months passed in which i wanted to see if my feelings grew so I told him since it was a year we were together he just walks away like that? Also the weekend we broke it off Friday he said he wanted to be with me but we can't because the way I feel and the relationship isn't going anywhere then the next day completely distant telling me he doesn't care for me as a gf that he wasn't in reality???He still has me on social media and only likes certain pictures like my coaching (basketball ) I texted him for my stuff back about a week ago and he made the excuse that he couldn't drop it off so I left it alone. .Tbh I am really hurt because of our relationship was so healthy..people have told me he's afraid of commitment but it's not like I was asking for marriage. ...I am really confused by this? ? Other people say hell contact me but I doubt it he was the one that ended it..What hurts me is that he acts like Nothing bothers him and I'm taking it bad...what's the deal? Does family affect his perspective meaning his mom and dad are separated but she goes out a lot with friends and getaways with men..
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (18 January 2015):
Don't waste your time on him. Take your stuff and let him go. He is just making a whole load of excuses for whatever reason. The fact that he is making excuses is a good enough sign for you to let him go. You deserve better than that. If he comes back, you will at least be in a position to make the choice of whether you want him or not.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 January 2015):
 It's not you, honey.
I'd let him go. Because if he can't HANDLE you telling him that you LOVE him, what's the point?
I would however CUT the contact 100%. And not agree to be "freinds" or FWB with this guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2015): I think your relationship was more of a friends-with-benefits situation. You were catching feelings, and that scared him.
He likes it casual with an exchange of romantic pleasantries; but for some reason you aren't allowed to say YOU love HIM.
There are guys who just like having a long-term girlfriend with an expiration-date on her backside. When he feels cramped or cornered, usually the word "love" is the trigger-word; and he is ready to jet the scene.
Collect your things, protect your heart, move on, and let him go. If he shows up out of nowhere after changing his mind, I hope you will already be over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2015): I think he was just looking for an excuse to end the relationship. Obviously things were not as good as you thought. You'd done nothing wrong so he found it hard to make his exit. So he used the fact that you love him as his excuse to end things. If it hadn't been that, it would've likely been something else.
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reader, ashieebabiee +, writes (17 January 2015):
ashieebabiee is verified as being by the original poster of the question I asked him and he said no he was happy with me and I know there isn't anyone else. He said the relationship is not going anywhere but yet he said he was happy until I said I love you?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 January 2015):
There is something else going on he hasn't told you. I think for a guy to back off after a year together, because you said I love you... doesn't compute.
My guess is he has been looking for a way out. You might have felt it was a good and healthy relationship, but obviously HE didn't.
I'd text him and ask for a date you can come pick up your stuff and drop his off and don't let him NOT give you one. Then swap stuffs, remove him from your phone, social media and so forth and start to move on.
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