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writes: Im only thirteen, and I keep falling in love with everyone! I get really attracted to people. My mum says because I really need a boyfriend and that I'm lonely. Is she right? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2005): I am Marilyn,from Davao City Philippines,like you,i think i am falling in love with a 21-year-old,male,from PA USA. I am just thirteen,i am also lonely,my friends keep tellin' me that i need a boyfriend,but i don't feel like having one. When i find a boyfriend,(my first boyfriend)i will choose the man that i truly love,like now,i choose him but he doesn't love me. So many guys courting me,but i always say no because of him. Now,my crush(or true love)he turned me down. he had so many asian girlfriends and it hurts me a lot. I understand your situation. In my opinion,i will tell you to find a boyfriend. all comments that i ahd read are excellent,but i am not agree when they say girls don't need guys. Remember,we will not stay beside our parents forever. We need someone in our life that will love and care for us. I am telling you to find a boyfriend,but always remember,just kissing on cheeks only. Don't give the most important thing of being a woman. You will just give that to your husband at your first night with him . Women have to respect theirselves. Some ladies,if they love the man,they will give all. How about the man?if they will get what they want from you,of course they will look for someone else,because you already give what they want. Think of it! Earth is colorful and happy when there is love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2005): HAHAHA...I'm 26 and still fall in love with everyone. I would like to say it changes and that a boyfriend will change it... But frankly I would be lying. Some of us just see the great in everyone and experience the highs in everything. Just remember though that in every high speed adventure that there will eventually be a crash....
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (15 September 2005):
 You most certainly do not need a boyfriend under any circumstances! Where's your girl power?! We don't need them to survive, why do you think some of them treat us so bad sometimes? They think we need them! NOT TRUE!
Get out there with your mates and have some girly fun. You don't need guys, they're just trouble so keep away from them for as long as you can. The sooner you get involved with them, your stress starts!
Trust me, just enjoy being young, hang with your girls and have fun. A boy won't fill the lonely void in your life, not at your age anyway. They just bring more trouble for you! Good luck :)
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reader, Delila +, writes (14 September 2005):
I don't think so. At thirteen (or any age for that matter) you don't need a boyfriend, and if you don't feel lonely then you ain't lonely. You are doing great. Doing what every normal healthy young girl does. I used to have a "fancy Book" where I would write down every boys/mans name I fancied and whether I thought they were kissable, fanciable, loveable, even bedable. There were at least thirty names in that book. Yet I did not kiss a boy till I was 16 and remained a virgin till I was 17. When I started shifting boys I would fancy a boy like mad and then if I went off him I would move on to the next one, if someone happened to get sick of me first then I would always be able to move on really fast cos there were loads of boys that I fancied. This hardly ever happened though I think it was because I was never clingy or needy and I had lots of self confidence as I feel you probably do. You don't ever NEED a boyfriend, you get a boyfriend because you WANT one. Love yourself!
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reader, help_me_12 +, writes (14 September 2005):
OK i'm not great at these but i used 2 be like that. I'm a boy however, and that makes it slightly different. When i was 13, i was falling in love with girls regularly, and for quite short periods. But I found as I grew up, I started properly falling in love with people and for a lot longer - and now i'm 16 - the people i ask out is becoming less and less. You may also find that you want to be more closer to the people you fancy and you might even start fantasizing about them.
Don't worry - there is one person out there: the one that is made for you. You will find him one day - it just might take a while.
Hope this helps!!
Help_me_12 :)
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reader, loulou +, writes (14 September 2005):
There is nothing wrong with feeling atttracted to people and with all the hormones in your body at the moment it is beyond your control, however I think what your thinking of as love is just a crush. And lots of people your age experince the same thing. What you need to realise is that it is due to the level of hormones being released, love is much more special than that, love is hard to find, you do not just experience it all the time with lots of people, but when you do find it, you will realise how special it is and that what you are experiencing really are just teenage crushes. You do not need a boyfriend at thirteen, nobody NEEDS a boyfriend at ANY age, you should enjoy life and what is thrown at you, make the most of your youth and never feel like you need anyone to make you happy. The most important thing is to be happy in yourself as an individual. At thirteen you should never feel lonely, you are surrounded by people all the time just in school, perhaps all you need to do is build on your friendships, make more friends, you have the world at your feet. Enjoy!
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