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anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and we have had many many highs and equal lows. I've always been a very friendly girl to other guys (but have never flirted or cheated) but he has never liked it.I love him incredibly.In the past year, a close friend of 6 years told me he likes me and because we go to the same school+ college (bf does not) we have always been really close. I never told my close friend about my boyfriend, but kept turning him down. Eventually, when me and the bf remained on an all time low for a long time, and things were never getting better, I started to grow towards all the happy thoughts and feelings that my close friend brought with him and started to consider if he could ever be better for me.We never did anything sexual. I quickly realised he could never replace my boyfriend and decided to start keeping my distance. Not long after, my bf found out about it all and said that I had cheated and now he can never trust me and hates me. He says that I am denying that I had feelings for my close friend, that I started liking him. And therefore, its a betrayal of trust. I keep saying I didn't like him, just that I started considering him, but my bf says even that is enough reason for him to never get back with me again.I love him dearly and if anything, this expeience has just made me love him even more and I regret it all.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): Thanks but what about the fact that I kind of lead my close friend on? I didn't tell him about my boyfriend either. My boyfriend says that suggests I liked him. But I didn't :( I don't know why I did what I did
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 in a four year relationship it is quite normal to feel things for other people, you did the right thing by not acting on those feelings.
your boyfriend is over reacting in my opinion, I think its a sign that he CAN trust you that you had feelings for someone yet didn't act on them because you still had feelings for your boyfriend as well.
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