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writes: I used to be friends with a woman that I met back at college 5 years ago. We became really close and I eventually started developing romantic feelings for her. About a year ago I decided to tell her how I felt but she didn't take it very well. She said she needed time to decide whether we could still be friends or not but I ended up never hearing from her. I'm involved with another woman now and I don't have any feelings for my friend anymore but I really regret the way things turned out with her. We used to have a great time together and I really miss her. I've still got her email address and phone number and I'd really like to get back in touch with her. I was wondering what the best way to go about it would be - I'm worried she might think I'm obsessed with her and still carrying a torch for her after a year! :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2006): the best thing to do now is to not contact her. she will contact you when she is ready. i was in her same position and it took me several years to contact my old best friend again. i just couldn't shake the thought that maybe he was thinking about fooling around when we hung out together and it just made me feel extremely uncomfortable. if you do decide to contact her, be prepared to be ignored or have a negative reaction. on the other hand, if you were best buds, you would know her more than anyone and what she would and wouldn't like, right? but like i said, if i were her, i'd just want my friend to back off until i was ready like i had told him. sorry to be such a downer. (plus, do you think it would make your current g/f upset that you're trying to contact someone you felt these feelings for? i know that i would be upset!)
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