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30-35,
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writes:I'm not too sure if my question's type is common, but I've really found the need to ask for help. The thing is, I recently have broken up with my girlfriend and now I miss her...But it's actually a little more complicated than that.When she and I first got together, I was trying to get over my last ex and didn't have sincere feelings for her like she had for me (and I'm now late to feel bad about it). Anyway, I treated her with great distance for a couple reasons; I was actually sick for the longest time and I was still hurting, so I was quite the relationship dud. We weren't exactly close because of my behavior, but we had some of the most cherish-able moments that even other people found adorable. Back to the point- we had an "off" relationship. She often had to fight for my attention and attempt intimate things like kissing but I refused because of my two reasons. Well, to summarize things better: eventually I grew moderately attached and then wanted to put effort into making things work out...But then she and I had a talk about the "skeletons in our closets." Turns out she developed feelings for other people while I failed to be anything near a good girlfriend. PLUS, she found out about my turmoil over my ex. We both agreed we should just be friends, despite we both knew our social circles aren't connected and that a friendship would be a sort of miracle. At first I told myself that I should have known better because I was such a poor partner to her and didn't have the same feelings at heart from the beginning. Then I had a strange dream about us getting back together and it oddly made me happy...Although later that morning, as well as the rest of the day, I felt heart-sunk at random moments. I miss her company. I regret how badly I treated her. As of now, I feel worse than ever...I don't even think of my other ex, who I had more history with. Now whenever I see her she has the tendency to ignore me unless I acknowledge her first. It kinda feels like we never met. So, my questions to all of you who are interested in helping out...What should I do? Have a screwed up far beyond redemption?
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reader, CottonCandy19  +, writes (6 September 2010):
It's normal to slowly get attached to someone, but for now u told her u'd be frens so u better not make a move yet. For now juz try to be an extremely gud fren to her. And probably soon she'll realize how u can be such a caring person. When the time is right, tell her how u feel and how u want a second chance.
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