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writes:i broke up with my boyfriend because of family pressure on my side. i regrt it and want to get back with him and making sure my family wont interfere anymore.but he says he loves me but won't get back together as he thinkd this will happen again. i am determined to give us another chance.we had a perfect relationship.How do i make him understand that? i need one last chance.
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reader, Spl-ash +, writes (11 June 2007):
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thanks 4 ur answer both. nice to have a man's point of view....
maybe am sure it was perfect 4 him cause he is so attentionate n caring. we go clubbing n have fun on saturday nights n sometimes we just stay home n do puzzles or monopoly while watching a movie.He bakes me cakes n tell all his mate about me how he loves me n is lucky.
he makes sure he comes to c me on the weekend cause he lives on campus.
all our mates rate us as a good couple n thought it would last.
i tried telling him its just gonna be us n no pressure. He says he loves me but doesn't think its gonna work, he even kissed me.. and i could see the hurt in his eyes. He kept all the things i got him n the ring i got him but i gave him his ring bak it was a valentine diamond. he tried convince me to keep it still. i've been on holiday and got him a prezi he left round mine n he asked me 4 it after we broke up.
i believe he is confused n hurt and as 4 a meal i reckon he will not want to meet up with me.
Is there any other way i can make him see it? that i care n love him n regret it. that i want another chance nwith no pressure? then again if i didn't have the pain of losing him i would never have stand up to my family.
now all i can hear from them is "i told u so...u should have listen to us.."
but they are wrong, i just lost my love, broke my own heart on a stupid whim worst i hurt Dave.
am on the verge of giving up... only his best mates try to keep me going that i shouldn't take the easy way out he is upset n hurt n doesnt go out atm...
Thanks a lot 4 ur time n advice, any comment is welcome
Spl_ash....
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): You are getting it all wrong. You don't have to convince him that you just want another chance - he knows that already. Then, you cannot be "determined" that you TWO will have another chance. What you need to do is prove that you won't break up with him again because of family pressures. That is just it.
Also, you mention that your relationship was perfect. For you, that is. How can you be sure it was perfect for him, too?
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reader, kenny +, writes (6 June 2007):
 You have got to explain to him that it was a mistake splitting up with him in the first place. Its only natural that he is going to a little bit jubious about getting back with you, for fear that it will happen again.
Why don't you book a meal out for the two of you and have a proper chat, tell him that if you got bact together it will be just the two of you straight down the line and absolutely no interference from you family.
You both had the perfect relationship so there is no reason why you could not again.
Good luck x
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