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*amu
writes:HiI recently went through my husbands facebook messages and found out he has been flirting with this gal for a long time. It really upset me because the things he was saying to her were too deep for me. I confronted him and he says everyone does it and he is not cheating on me. I feel I cant trust him anymore and he has basically refused to stop conversing with her. Any advice
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (28 October 2008):
 That was a brilliant answer, Fade. I personally know of two marriages that have become victims to internet affairs. The fact is that they are probably in their next relationships, ignoring each other in the same room and running off to the net again. The trick to staying together is remembering to focus on what brought you both together in the first place. You need to get back in touch with your partner and get him off the net. Either start planning a vacation where you can reconnect, or consider getting some marriage counseling to find out the root of the problem.
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (28 October 2008):
 Yes, I agree. CHEATING. The internet can lead people down this evil road. What starts out as an innocent chat becomes cyber sex then becomes talking on the phone then becomes meeting each other. And then becomes REAL LIFE. Put this to an end NOW. YOu are going to have to talk serious about this and tell him that A) NOT everyone does this B) HE is talking to a REAL person C) This is UNACCPETABLE. If he loves you, he will put this to an end immediately. Otherwise, you are going to have to make an ultimatum at some point. This particular chat might not become real life but this is where it is heading, I guarantee it!
I really hope you can get this straightened out. I wish you the best of luck!!!
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reader, sexseahot +, writes (28 October 2008):
 Not everyone is flirting with others when they have a significant other. You don't have to deal with these actions from him. He is way out of line and if he respected you enough, he would quit talking to her. She should be nothing to him compared to you. He should try and please you. Let him know that this behavior is unacceptable and how it's making you feel. He should love and care for you enough to deminish all comtact with this lady.
Good Luck!!! I hope things work out for you and your husband smartens up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): Sorry, you have to be realistic. No matter how much this is hurting, but he is "cheating".Emotional Infidelity is almost like a cancer it grows and it gets worse if not stopped in time.
Emotional Infidelity
1. Falling in love with another person while in a committed relationship with another, and where there is no physical contact.
2. Placing attention (such as flirting) on another that should instead be given to one's partner or spouse.
Also Known As: emotional cheating,infidelity, unfaithfulness
Don't accept this behavior. Give him the ultimatum.
"There are many truths of which the full meaning cannot be realized until personal experience has brought it home".(a quote by John Stuart Mill
Helen Keller said:
" I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still can do something. I will not refuse to do the something I can do".
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 October 2008):
 Then, OH Yeah, this is cheating. No way is this something you should have to tolerate. If he refuses to stop contact with this woman, I'm afraid you will have to take some drastic measures. He's way out of line.
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reader, Jamu +, writes (28 October 2008):
Jamu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit was on the lines of he really wants to feel her down there and how much he wants to make love to her. he was also planning on getting her gifts and i had noticed him searching for gifts on amazon and other sites and when i asked about the interest he said they were for the sister, but the messages were clear it was for her
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): it was on the lines of he really wants to feel her down there and how much he wants to make love to her. he was also planning on getting her gifts and i had noticed him searching for gifts on amazon and other sites and when i asked about the interest he said they were for the sister, but the messages were clear it was for her
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 October 2008):
Give us an idea of exactly what he's been chatting to her about.
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