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writes:Hey People! Okay well here's the thing. I've been dating my girlfriend now for almost 2 months, we've been good friends now for about a year or more. We kiss every chance we get and she allows me to grab her butt when we're making out but the thing is i want to go a little further in our relationship. I don't want sex because me and her have talked about it and we know that shouldn't come so soon and i truthfully know I'm too young for that but i would like to take it to the next step such as fingering but I'm just afraid of pushing her too far and losing her because i truly do love her with all my heart. So i guess is the real question is what do i do? and how do i go about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): Hey Mr Lover man, you have made my day... Great decision..It's rare to meet a guy like you, most guys your age don't listen to adults, because they just want to do the sex thing. Young teenage girls get real worried because most guys just want to have sex and that's all. As I said, your a very rare young guy, your girl is bloody lucky.
Let me let you into a secret, there is a big reason why waiting is better and it's not only better for teenagers like you. Many adults don't jump in bed after a month. We do exactly like you do. We do the waiting thing, we go out, we go to dinner, cinema, get to know one another before we take of our clothes. It does make things better. It means that when you eventually get together with someone it means something special. Take things slowly, take your time, it just builds the passion, it makes things sweeter when you touch each other intimately for the first time. Trust me, and I'm not just saying this because your young. It's like Christmas, it's no fun to open your present straight away, the anticipation is sweeter, waiting for each unwrapping makes the gift even sweeter..
I'm sending you and your lady my good wishes and hoping everything works out right for you both and this time you spend together makes the eventual prize something you'll remember to the day you die.
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reader, DieRomantic +, writes (17 August 2008):
DieRomantic is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks people for your help. It really did help. I know we're moving fast and im gonna try to slow it down a bit because i care about her and i dont want somthing i do to fuck it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): Sorry, scratch that, it hasn't even been two months, your moving much too fast for someone who claims not to want sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): Too fast babes, it's only been two months, you need to go much slower. Stage one, making out, stage two, caressing her body with her clothes on, stage three, top off, fingering should come much later than this. Your moving much to fast. Please try to slow down a bit. Trying rubbing her breasts and vagina, but keeping the clothes on. How about you, has she touched you yet with your clothes on. There is also dry humping, which is rubbing up against her, again with the clothes on. As you noticed, I like anything which teenagers do, which keeps the clothes on. Wait at least 3-6 months before you do anything with naked skin. Get imaginative, and she'll know you respect her and want more than her body and quick sex... Good luck, blessings.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (16 August 2008):
 i agree you both seem very mature which is rare on its own so well done.. now for your question is just say to her how do you feel about foreplay? and is it something she would like to do intimatly with you, if not no preassure just a question.. hope that helps good luck aphex xx
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reader, HaileyBurger  +, writes (16 August 2008):
 I agree, first talk with u'r girlfriend about fingering. I was 15 when my ex pushed me in having sex, and i did it. And today i regret ever doing it so young because i wasn't ready and i still blame him even though i am 20 now. I can assure u there's a lot more time for sex. And both sides have to be ready. Communication is the key in a good relationship so talk to her and really hear what she wants.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (16 August 2008):
 You've talked about sex, so why don't you talk about you fingering her?
You two have a good communication since you two have already talked about sex and made a decision about it. So just do the same thing, just about fingering. Sex is a hard topic to talk about, so fingering would come easier.
If she tells you that she wants to keep on waiting for you to finger her, then you will have to just accept that. You two made a pretty mature decision, so I guess you accepting this as well would not be so hard.
Good luck, take it slow, and be safe.
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