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writes:HeyI'm 18 and I think spit just doesn't work enough. I guess I just want to try lube to know how it feels like because i'm quite sure it must feel a lot better (certainly since i have a tight foreskin) (i'm talking to use lube just for masturbation, not for sex).I just have 2 problems:1) I'm too embarrassed to buy it and it's a small town, everybody would know I bought it. I can't buy it online because if my dad gets the delivery I'm fucked!2) Once I have it I have to hide it in my room and .. that's like impossible with my parents who keep nosing around my room or once my dad just removed everything from my drawers to be sure i put it better in my drawers -.-" urgh.The only time I will be alone is in 3 years, I'll study abroad. But even then, where would I hide the lube? My bros and parents would come to me too when i'm studying abroad and stay for a few weeks.. hmmm =/Are there alternatives (no spit, it dries out much too soon!)?Thanks!
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reader, Shadows +, writes (14 June 2011):
Shadows is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for clearing things up
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 June 2011):
 You need to keep in mind that baby oils, or anything that isn't designed to be used for intercourse, will not be recommended for sex. But you're not using it to have intercourse! You're not putting this inside your body. A female shouldn't use the same type of lotions that YOU can use, because you don't put the lotions inside of you, you only add it to your skin. Same as if you have it on your hands, only the skin on your penis is more sensitive (baby oil is perfect, it will not irritate your skin).
The other reason lotions, oils, etc, aren't to be used as lubricant for sex (intercourse to be specific) is because condoms will not tolerate it. Lubricants who aren't meant to be used for sex can damage the condom, meaning it won't protect as it is supposed to.
Remember the reasons why certain things are recommended and not. You can definitely use oils like baby oil, or other lotions, to masturbate. Some men even use regular body lotions. I'd only recommend you use something perfume free and stay away from products with alcohol in them (sensitive skin down there, it might sting). The only thing is that you can not use these things for intercourse. But for masturbating, as you're a guy, it's perfectly fine.
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reader, Shadows +, writes (13 June 2011):
Shadows is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhmm i'm too embarassed to go buy it even in another country =/....
And sorry Cindycares, i just read on some site that most of baby oils or lotions contain chemicals that aren't okay to use it as lube :P.
As for my parents knowing I have lube and masturbate, it's not okay, they will be shocked. If I talk even slightly about sex they're shocked.
As for baby oil, I don't have that :/ ergg
I should just wait I guess, once i'm studying abroad it'll be my chance. Gotta wait 3 years though.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (13 June 2011):
Baby oil is a good idea though. Don't use it for intercourse with a woman, but for purely masturbating it should do the trick. Regular olive oil would do the trick as well, if you're desperate.
Or take the bus to the next town and get it there.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (13 June 2011):
But what if you just buy it and don't say anything about it? So that of they do ask, you can say it's for masturbating. It's not like you declare it, or tell them randomly, but if they ask you can tell the truth. What is the worst that could happen? And maybe they wont react like you think they might? You don't have much to lose in this do you? If they "catch" you with the lube, it's not like they can tell you to never masturbate again. It's not like they can control it either, is it?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 June 2011):
 What chemicals, Shadows ? I am talking about all natural vegetal hand made products ,with no colorants and no conservants. In my country- and I guess in most of Europe - there are - legal and certified - laboratories and chemists where you can buy this kind of items, or have it custom made for you.
But, I forgot that you mentioned living in a small town.
So, maybe the best is if you take a bus to the next town, where they don't know you. Or just get baby oil at your local supermarket.
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reader, Shadows +, writes (13 June 2011):
Shadows is verified as being by the original poster of the question@CindyCares, that's not healthy and not advised because of the dangerous chemicals
@Chigirl thanks for the advice but:
- I'm not against masturbation but I'm quite sure my parents are, not that they ever say anything about it but they are intolerant.
I agree it's a natural thing and would feel awesome to do that. But a person just can't tell his parents he masturbates, nobody should tell it to their parents, it's awkward =/. My parents are so closed about sex and NEVER talk about it.
Why would my dad get it? Simple: My dad doesn't work, he's home 24/7 really almost never goes out.. I guess that makes him crazy, but he hates me, i hate him because he uses my mum who works and he does nothing around the house and says we(me & bros) do nothing. He's unfair and my mum still doesn't kick him out and he yells at us always and it's not like it rarely happened that he slapped us & etc. ONTOPIC: He would open my packages, but not only mine, he'd just open any. He'd ask me what it is and I can't just tell my parents "it's lube"! lol.. It's true I once found porn on my bros PC, I know they masturbate, we all do, don't we? But It's just not a thing we can discuss or do anything about it.
@Placing it next to other gel tubes is a great idea, thanks =]. But I don't know how to buy it. I can't ask my brother for it lol! it'd be so awkward and like uuhhh. I can't imagine my brother asking me to buy some haha so no .. (I have 2 bigger bros)
Thanks for answering.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (13 June 2011):
Why hide it? Lube is as natural as any other thing. Put it out in the open and if someone asks you what you use it for tell the truth. I'm sure that'll be the last time your parents get nosy.
It's not like your parents can forbid you to masturbate, or are against masturbating, is it?
If you buy it online and send it to yourself, why would your dad get it? The delivery would have your name on it. Or you can have it shipped on a day you know your dad won't be home.
Place the lube together with other lotions, hand creams, hygiene products, toothpaste, hair gel etc. that you own. It'll look just like one of the other bottles.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (13 June 2011):
Go to a herbalist's shop and get aloe vera gel or flax seed gel, or (ask them ) any other natural hypoallergenic skin moisturizer. Then you don't need to hide it... everybody is entitled to have dry ,sensitive skin :)
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