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writes:ive been in a relationship for over 4yrs. with my boyfriend and we have one kid together. we dont live together and i feel like he has no responsibilities to me or my daughter. i go to school and work yet he can't even go back for his GED or find a job. he has no goals, all he wants to do is go out and drink while I stay home with the baby. i really want to work it out but he doesn't want to make any effort i have my flaws too but i am trying to work on them but he doesnt care to make any effort.what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lovely Sweet Laura  +, writes (16 July 2009):
 You have stepped into your life as an adult and are ready to take on the responsibilities that go with that. He has yet to do so and may very well never do so. Your best bet is to concentrate on what is best for you and your child. You can't change him unfortunately. I'm sure when you speak to him about your concerns he logically agrees that what you are saying makes sense but can't seem to step up to the plate. I've been there. He may eventually be willing to put an effort forth but you can't afford to put your life on hold waiting for him to come around and the stress and frustration it causes you will only get worse. I know when you care about someone and want it to work so badly it is very difficult to let it go. Trust me you will save yourself so much pain if you walk away from it now instead of later. When he sees you moving in a positive direction without him he may even start trying to make things better in his life but there are no guarantees. Best of Luck
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