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writes:I have married for 7 years with a 3 year old kid. My husband is a good father but not a good husband. Since the kid was born, we seldom have sex. The last time we had sex was more than a year ago. I confronted him last week. He said he treated me as the mother of our kid and a good friend. He found me not attractive and he doesn't love me anymore.... I really want to leave him but my kids really love him. I'm a working mum so financially I don't have any problem. I think I'm still attractive to other people. If I leave him now, I may still have chance to find someone who loves me....Any advise? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010): you are young, attractive and fnancially capable of taking care of yourself and your kid.
if you have not had sex with your hb for the past year then know this: there is almost a 100% certainty that he is getting it from someone else. please be realistic about this.
so pack your bags and leave this man. you can and should start over. you have wasted too much of your life already with this 'loser' of a husband. he is a loser if he doesn't want you anymore.Girl, belive in yourself and move out NOW.
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reader, Ripley99  +, writes (30 May 2010):
You should leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): You deserve someone who loves you, for me I'm glad my parents broke up (for similar reasons) because they're much happier, I'm sure they'll understand, and if not now then later
whatever you do, don't let him make you look like the bad one as you
make the leaving move
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reader, Accountable +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Please leave, you deserve to find a partner who loves you, and you arent doing your kids any favours by raising them in a loveless household! How do you think the atmosphere in the home will be after a few years of building disappointment and resentment from the lack of affection you are receiving? Your children can still have a good relationship with both you and their father, so long as you're both mature and concentrate on giving the kids a balanced upbringing.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): Girl, marriage is for life. But if he's saying you're not attractive to him and he doesn't love you anymore, than he's already ended the marriage. You just have to file the paperwork. Good luck, and don't let this man's poor judgement make you forget what a hot lil catch you really are!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): You can't stay with someone for the sake of children. It is not a good place for them to be raised, they need a happy home.You have talked to him and he has told you how he feels, so it's pretty much time to leave.
Don't worry about finding someone else that will take care of itself.
Good Luck
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