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writes:Hi, well me and the girl i was seeing broke up a month or so ago, at first i was really depressed cos i really really liked her and we got on so well, we still talk and we both say we will miss each other, and we say we are gonna stay friends because theres no point wasting what we have (cos we get on really well together) because of what happened. I thought i was ok about it all but tonight ive thought about what ive actually lost, i feel like ive got a part of me missing, i really wanna tell her how i feel but im scared because i do still want her in my life even if it is as friends, and i dont want her thinking that the only reason i wanna be friends with her is so i can get back with her. Shes back with her ex boyfriend now because they have a stable relationship and atm thats what she needs because of stuff going on in her life, and i respect that, but i feel as if she isnt 100% happy with him (i could be wrong, but thats the impression i get) because by the sounds of it they dont really have fun but she wants the stability. Basicly, do you think i should say something to her about it? i dont wanna get her worked up and put more pressure on her but i cant stop thinking about her, i dunno weather or not its the right thing to do or weather just to bite my tongue and get on with being friends with her. i am 16 by the way. if anyone could give me some advise on what to do i will be greatful. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): you know partner you are young first off, secondly remember the old saying " Set them free, if she comes back she was always yours, if she does not she was never yours" is very applicable here" the more you try to get her back the more she will resist, she has to make her own decision and find out, if the guy she choice to be with is her love at this time. She could very well let him go a little later, and in this case, it may happen. What you have to realize with the ladies, is play a bit hard to" get" if she knows she has you on a string, she will never come back if she feels she will loose you , then you have a chance. Never, never, chase a lady she will run away, and it applies to a man, as well, when a lady came after me with a passion, man, I ran, and the woman do the same. let it be, and you will have results, once in a while send her flowers, but, do not call, let her heart find a place for you My good man..so, that is my answer, it never failed me, and I am over 60yrs. old and have had thousands of girls in my life..take care, big guy, God bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2006): I am impressed with your attitude towards this girl and the respect you show towards her, very mature for 16. The foundation of any love relationship is friendship, respect and passion...continue being her friend, and don't put pressure on her to be with you, if you want to take care of her by being her friend first, and date other girls or have other girl friends to take your mind off of her, she may grow to love you more this way, but it will take time, either way if you take care of yourself as well you will find what you need and want with or without her....good luck and try not to worry about this as it will make you needy and clingy, two relationship killers...be strong and confident that you are a great person, because you are and she knows it.
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