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writes:So i've been thinking lately, and I really want a baby with the person im with now, and he wants one as well. Well a few days ago I went to the rr and noticed a few specks of blood so I put a pad on and 2 specks came out all day. [I know TMI im sorry] Well we had sex about 2 or 3 weeks ago and he pulled out, then last week he didnt pull out at all, and Ive been feeling super sleepy, dizzy sometimes, and I had the spotting and ive also had a few headaches. Ive been checking my temperature lately and its been around 99.0-99.3. and for the longest time I thought I was infertile and had kind of just given up hope. and I know im having the symptoms but still I just have it in my mind its too good to be true because ive been trying for so long :( I will be taking a pregnancy test soon, I would just like some good feedback from people with experience before I decide to do so. If anyone could tell me about their experiences with pregnancies and the symptoms they had and how soon and stuff like that, I would GREATLY appreciate it, thanks for all the feedback and wish me luck people! =]]
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): I am 16. My boyfriend is 22. My daughter is 20 days old. (3 weeks tomorrow)
I will tell you now, please hold off having children for a bit. ITS SOOOOO HARD!!! My daughter has been crying constantly since i brought her home and it's so hard and tiring you feel not human. She goes to bed at 10pm or so, wakes for a feed about 1am or 2am, goes back to bed (eventually) wakes again 3 hours later and has more food, has a poo (which stinks to high heaven) and this continues for another 24hrs. I have gone through maybe $70 in 3 weeks for formula for her because i found breast feeding painful, difficult and my baby wasn't getting enough milk. She does big wees and poos so i can't buy the cheap nappies as they are...not very good to say the least. So i am buying Huggies nappies at $20 for 54nappies which i would say would last me roughly a week. Whenever i go to put a piece of food in my mouth, she wakes up and screams. I have gone without sleep, without food, no time to do anything and it does take it's toll. Labour i found wasn't too traumatic however, it did hurt.. ALOT but it only lasted 5 hours or so. I was cut and received stitches which hurt for a few days and pooing was impossible, i now found out i have a tear in my clitoris which you could imagine kills like all hell. After i had my baby, I couldn't feel my bladder and i weed myself without even knowing it was coming. My belly has stretch marks all over it and i am trying without much success to remove them. I have gained 30kgs in the pregnancy and im not quite my pre pregnancy weight but dfinately not as toned. My boobs hurt so much when my milk came in they were throbbing, hot and lumpy. Having a baby is NOT wat its cracked up to be no matter how sweet they seem, they are all little monsters and i suggest you wait a few years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI live with him already -_-
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): How long have you been trying? it sounds like not very long, How long have you been with this guy? What would your parents say, would they throw you out? Would you have to go live in some council house in a shit area? Would the baby get the right care and love and attention? Will you two stay together or will you become a single parent?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): Um great advice so far....who is going to raise this baby, I mean financially? Are you working at McDonalds for 9 bucks an hour, do they give overtime, seriously, have you asked your mom or dad for a baby? Guess what they are the one's who will be raising this child, certainly it won't be you.
Please use the gray matter between your ears, called the BRAIN.
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reader, Delia +, writes (18 September 2009):
A lot of girls in your age group want a baby so they won't be lonely. They normally do not get married, and all too often the guy leaves all the responsibility to the girl. It can also be difficult to collect child support.
"Oh, it's a dream! I want a family." Somehow you expect the father to be active in the child's life. Too often the man moves on to another girl, and you are left with all the hard work and responsibility.
Believe me it is a 24/7 day job. A major adjustment that will not allow much time for the social scene. Count ON BEING ALONE. Babies need you, but they don't fulfill your needs until much later in life. They interfere with your education.
Symptoms: sore breasts, possible spotting, swelling of feet, nausea, and more. Google for more information.
All I can say is that you are about to embark on one of most challenging, exhausting, and tiring periods of your life. I would suggest waiting until you older and more mature.
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