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writes: Ok this i really hard for me im 15 yrs old and i really like this boy i mean i really like this boy!! he makes me so happy its unbelievable, people may think im only 15 this cant happen its just thier hormones or whatever but its not, thats what my parents say!! so the question is im not sure what to do because my parents dont approve but i cant let him go, what shuld i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (26 June 2007):
 If can at 15 feel really attracted to somebody I think, I just don't think love plays a complete factor at 15. Anyway....
If you really like this guy then date him and see how it goes. Your parents may come round to the idea. They are probably afraid of things getting to serious and you ending up pregnant or something. Just be grown up and sensible and enjoy your time with this guy.
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reader, broken_in _2 +, writes (20 June 2006):
 The question would be what about him dont your parents approve of or do they not approve of you dating period. I am sixteen and had the same problem with my dad all you need to do is just point out that it could be worse or you could just ask them to trust you this once. I mean at first take it slow dont just rush out all the time with him take it one step at a time. See the problem with parents is they are so worried about their children growing up and relizing life that they forget how it was when they were your age.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (20 June 2006):
 Why don't they approve? Do they not approve of him? Or do they not approve of you having a boyfriend yet?
I would talk to them and tell them that you respect them and don't want to hurt them but you have to make your own decisions too.
If it is the boy, maybe you can suggest he comes over for dinner so they can meet him and spend time with him. Or just to talk to them and help clear up any confusion over him perhaps?
If it is the whole boyfriend thing maybe you can date within some limitations - ie, dates at your house when they are home etc.
The last thing you want to do is sneak around behind your parents back but it is important that you do talk to your parents so they can see your point of view.
However, do listen to your parents too. They are experienced and only want what is best for you. They do things because they love you so find out why they don't approve of this boy and listen to their reasons but that doesn't mean that you can't perhaps negotiate somewhat?
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reader, toritor567 +, writes (20 June 2006):
If you really like him you wont care what your parents think.Even though they are your parents,they cant make you not love someone and love someone.You love whoever you love and thats not anyone else's discision besides yours and the person you fall inlove with.Why should you care about what other ppl think.Even though they are trying to help and protect you.
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reader, Oh Carol +, writes (19 June 2006):
Parents always say and do what they feel is best for us because they love us. Uncaring parents wouldn't take the time to bother to say anything.
Have you asked your mum & dad why they don't approve - if not , maybe you should.
If you sit and chat with your parents and are prepared to listen, they might see that you are a young woman who is prepared to act responsibly and they might be prepared to meet you half way.
When I was 15 I had met the boy I loved - my parents also disapproved. I married the boy when we were 19 we had 2 children and now I have spent almost 20 years regretting my decision.
I adore my kids but regretted getting married but stayed for the kids sake
It took me many years to realise that my mum and dad were right ....if only I had been prepared to listen.
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reader, Astaroth +, writes (19 June 2006):
 be assertive, be confident and tell your parents where they stand. If you like him that much, they have no right to stand between you, unless your like hindu or something in whichcase they might (I think it's them with the arranged marriages. not being sectarian or anything) In any case, i stayed with her. Im 16, shes 17 and my parents hate her, but we've been together 3 years and she makes me really happy. stick with it babe!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2006): Go for it, i was in your situation once and i let him go and ive regretted it ever since
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