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writes:Help please,I have a real big problem, I am in love with my first cousin. I am 25 and she is 29. I have always been really close to her, and have always though of her as a great friend, well my best friend. I recently separated from my wife and at the same time she separated from her boy friend and we are using each other shoulder for support. I don't understand where these feelings are coming from. I am not from the south or do believe in Christ, actually we are both really big in God and the belief in Christ. I know its wrong, but the feelings are so strong and I have a feeling that I have always loved her and couldn't think of anyone better to spend the rest of my life with then her. I feel so strong about her then I have ever felt about anyone in my entire life, and I cant stop thinking about her. We talk daily and I dont know what I should do... Please help, I really need some advice and my heart aches every day and the desire of just to be with her is so overwhelming. thanks!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 You know this is wrong and thinking about it is merely going to support those emotions you THINK you have. The truth is that you have thought about her in a romantic way before, even when you knew doing so is wrong, spiritually, emotionally, physically, it is wrong in every way.
As hard as it may be, you have to force those thoughts aside. It would cause a barrage of problems, awkwardness and tension. Just forget them and ignore them, distract yourself from them. You are related by blood and therefore, in the eyes of god, it is a vile perversion of what is right.
I know this is not the answer you were looking for because you already knew what the answer was.
I hope that helps.
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