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writes:Ok well it all started when in met a girl on the net, and we have got to make it as fars as bf and gf as we as now seeing each other. Ok we are quite a distance from each other. She lives in West Yorkshire amd I live in the West Midlands. Now my gfs past has been very rocky from day one. She had met her EX at school and they ok liked each other, and then She got pregent at the age of 16 and her EX helped her throught it and everything and also her parents as well. She then had another at the age of 20 by the same EX. And because she had left school she had to go on to the benifits for housing because of having the kids. But all was not fair on her. Then her EX started fighting with her like if he wanted to go out the on weekend night to socalize she would stay at home and look after the kids, but when it came to her turn, He'd stop her from going out, the only excuse she could say was if a family member on her side invited her out. So the one day came where he was having a massive row wih her over that she was doing all the work around the house and he was not lifting a finger to help out. The one day He liturally grabbed her be the neck and phsyically held her up against the wall. And then when she had had enough and old him to get out and not to come back. Then she had to ring social services up to tell them what had happened. Because the EX twists and turns the story so it all backfired on her. And even to this day I have been up to see her 3 times and she has come down to me once. The 3rd time I was up was 2007/8 I went up for the week and she had plans to go out this year as the (EX still has the kids but on Wednesday and Saturdays) and she had the kids last year so it was only far her EX had them this year anyway the night he drop the kids be home and then she reminded him that he was having the kids for new year. And he just turned round and laughed in her face and said i dont think so i got plans. So she ended up having the kids again. But all was not lost as I spent it with her and the kids around a mates moms which was good. and she said she had enjoyed despit the bf screwing her again. And i came back home and everything started settling down again. I due to go and see her again next week, for a week. But her EX is been a bastard again he has told her that no of her family can touch the kids. Which she said to me who the give him the right to tell him my mom and dad cant see them when they are there nan and grandad, and same goes with her sister their Auntie. She had said she has regretted getting pregnant and said i have wasted 7 years the mt EXOk well that the story I really need so big time help on this one guys. Please Thanks Scottylad
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): I agree with the post before, that advice was good. You should really go to the police, especially as it's involving the kids. It's not fair on her, or on the children, and legal action needs to be brought in, I think. All you can do is just support her through this hard time, and reassure her that everything'll be ok. I hope it all goes well for you :]
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (22 February 2008):
This has clearly reached the stage where she needs legal advice and until she knows what her legal options are (with all the facts considered) then she will not be in a position to make a decision as to what she wants to do.
Seriously, this is too specific for this forum and clearly has legal implications so she really does need to see a solicitor. I would recommend that you try and find a lady lawyer who has the guts to fight for her if needed.
Good luck mate.
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