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* Beautiful Disaster
writes:Hey everyone, recently my boyfriend of two months broke up with me, and I'm absolutely gutted about it :/ I really started to fall hard for him and believe that it was one of the most successful relationships I've had so far. We saw each other very often and were inseparable at one point. The problem started when I went away on holiday. He thought that we were drifting, and believed that we would only drift more and more once we were back at college in September. He said that this seemed like the most logical thing to do because we don't exactly live next door to one another - at least 45 minutes by car and over an hour on two different buses, but we were both prepared to make the effort in the summer. I can't seem to get through to him very well either as he's ignored me previously.He says he hasn't lost interest in me, isn't bored of me, and still likes me, but he wanted it to end because he wouldn't see me very often (I have busy Saturdays but I was willing to change timings in order to see him). What can I do to change his mind? He said that I was one of the most lovely, generous people he'd ever met. I still want to be that person for him. Please could someone give me some advice on how I could possibly get him back? I miss him a great deal and would love this to work more than anything! xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): You are young sweetie, but in a couple of years, you will realize that no man is worth panting after; no matter how handsome, chivalrous, romantic or perfectly ideal he appears now in your eyes. Take a break, and you will realize he is just a boy, one of many...and your loving better go to someone more receptive or appreciative of it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 September 2010):
One of the hardest things in life is to accept that something is over. That's what you have to do here. A lot of people don't want relationships to end, and want to try and persuade their ex's to come back without looking at the clear facts in front of them.
You need to stop looking at this emotionally, and look at it for what it is. Your boyfriend claimed you were drifting, and then decided that because you would be far away it would be best to break. You have also said that he has ignored your previously. There is no advice on earth that anyone can give to you to bring this guy back. He has already made his decision. He made the decision to end it.
You now need to pull away and move on with your own life. You'll only torture yourself if you don't. Truth is, if this guy really cared for you and loved you that much, he would have worked at it. He chose not to. He chose to let you go. Now you need to do the same, because he's already moved on.
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