A
female
age
26-29,
*lightlyLost
writes:There was a guy who I was close friends with, who cut off all contact with me and many others for undisclosed reasons. Personally I think he was suffering from depression - I can't be positive because he hasn't interacted with many people since the cutting off despite several of us trying repeatedly to talk with him. He just closes off and you get monosyllabic responses. He was always kinda insular but has withdrawn completely.The thing is, I really miss him and I just can't get through. I send him occasional emails and texts about films we used to watch and stuff that used to interest him but I never get a reply. I know he uses both his phone and his email so it hurts that he doesn't respond. I get that he may be suffering from a mental illness, I just want to assure him that he has a friend if he ever needs one but I worry that this isn't getting through to him. I was thinking about writing him an email saying this - do you guys think this would be a good idea? I don't want to push him away or anger him if he has just decided that he doesn't want me in his life anymore.I'm sorry but I really needed to get that off my chest - I hope you can help me. I have spoken about him before here - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-respond-to-his-text-hes.html but after a few texts he just shut up completely. As we were keeping the converstion neutral it wasn't anything that I said. I really miss him.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 April 2012):
 It really is hard to tell why he has cut contact, but he has his reasons I guess. I know it can be hard on you and you miss him. But if you keep contacting him you are only going to keep pushing him away. Drop him one last email tell him you miss him and you worry about him, explain that you will not contact him again and say you are always there if he ever wants to rekindle the friendship and then leave it at that and try and move forward. I know it can be hard but I guess you have no choice but to respect his wishes. Good luck.
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