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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met this girl in my class last semester. We r both business major. We clicked, and we started hanging out a lot and studying together. She and her best friend (who is also her roommate) are no longer friends, so i decided to introduce her to my friends. However, now I wish i didn't do that. This semester, I noticed that she likes to boast, brag a lot. She's pretty and smart and i don't know why she needs to prove to me that she's smart. Every time i say something, it's like oh I got nominated to go to that conference too or if i ask "do you know JOHN?" she would be like yeah he's so in love with me? I told her im going to Italy this summer but i don't brag about it but she's going to Ireland this summer and SHE CAN'T STOP TALKING ABOUT IT. She knows she's pretty. She thinks all they boys love her and all the girls hate her. I'm the opposite. I'm laid back; i don't brag about my accomplishments. Back to the main problem, I no longer wanna hang out with her BUT my FRIENDS are like in love with her. From my understanding, she's different when she's around them (she's loud, everything has to be about "her", she knows it all , she brags, and i think shes kinda jealous of me (i just have that sense). Now all of my friends wanna ask her to hang out but i don't wanna be around her! Please give me some advice on how to deal with this situation. I'm studious; i don't party a lot. She's also studious but also the life of a party (which is why my friends love her) I don't wanna alienate myself away from MY friends just bc she's there. Unfortunately, we have class together this semester. I stop hanging out with her and I stop texting but I was suprised to see her in my apartment bc apparently she's bff with two of my closest friends. It sucks. I don't wanna be her friend, but I have to see her around..at school and now she's friends with all my friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2012): looks like your dear friend is trying too hard to become popular .. Iam happy to note that you still want to hang out with your other friends though ...No need to maintain contacts with this gal pal of yours.. Do hang out with your friends and if this gal comes along , act distant and wear a far away look when she starts bragging..Try asking a couple of questions in return as if to check if she's lying ..Preferably make a light hearted jest or two about her ..You might be surprised to find out that your other friends will be supportive of your atitude .. This will keep her bragging in check ....Trust me once the initial charm wears off your friends will probably get over her..
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 April 2012):
 I guess there is not much you can do here, she is friends with your friends now as well and you can't change that. Stop contact with her, but when you are out with your friends and she is there as well be polite to her and don't be rude with her. I guess you just need to accept now that she is in your gang of friends, just try and avoid her whenever you can.
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