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*sk sweeney :)
writes:ive been with a girl 8 months and i really love the girl but we have no trust in our relationship and argue all the time ..... i dont think i can make this relationship work .... do you think i should give up and leave her ? and if so how do i let her dwn without breaking her heart ? Reply to this Question
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reader, lena1  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 1st you should know where is the problem?why there is no trust!!and if you really love the girl you will forgiv her for things she does and try to make things beter ,but if you did that and you found that relation is same and still no trust you can say that nicely to her and end it and live your life!you still so young
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): I agree with the "Anonymous Male writer"; You are young enjoy life;No need to deal with relationship problems yet.
Tell her you don't want to be committed but will remain friends; that should soften the "blow" to her slightly; however you cannot stay in a relationship just because you don't want to hurt her.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES
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reader, charlotteee :) +, writes (11 August 2008):
 i think you should try and give it time, try and go out with her and enjoy time being together, because theres not much point being in a relationship where theres not much trust, time together should be spent happily and not to be wasted arguing, if you both loved eachother, you would trust eachother, maybe you should just give it time and see what happens, if it still continues maybe a break from eachother would be best, that way you can talk about it without arguing in a relationship.. but yeah give it time, and spend time with eachother just having a laugh about
hope things go well
:) xx
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Brilliant advice from Hope.
Having your heart broke is extremely hard, its also character building, and makes you grow and realise that its better to walk away than to keep going, even if you are un-happy. She will get over it, but its how you handle it in the first place that makes you mature.
Good luck, and try to stay friends XXX
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reader, ask sweeney :) +, writes (11 August 2008):
ask sweeney :) is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks tht sounds like very good advice i apreciate it thank you
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reader, Saleem  +, writes (11 August 2008):
i think you should firstly figure out why you dont trust her and see if you have reason to not trust her.
If you have reason to doubt or not trust her then talk to her about it, let her know exactly how you feel and why you feel that way and if she is willing to help youu through it then sort it out together, if not then tell her that you wanna distance yourself a little bit. Continue talking to her and everything but dont see her as much and while doing that you will figure out if you wanna be with her and if you can trust her or not..
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): Sometimes you can't not break someone's heart, but there are definitely ways to make her feel better about it. Maybe tell her you need a break to think about things? And if after the break you're still not sure then you need to tell her that you don't think the 2 of you are going to work out together, but tell her you'll still be friends because you value her friendship (if you do!). Just some ideas!
Good luck!
xx Hope xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): Why waste time? You are young and need to enjoy life. have lots of friends and leave serious relationships for later in life.
Just tell her you don't want to be committed, you are still too young.
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