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writes:please help.. There is a guy I really love but hes 5 years older than me..and right now that is a lot..I want to tell him i love him..should I ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2007): Only if you are ready to risk heartbreak if he doesn't feel the same. If he does feel the same way and you end up in a relationship make sure that you don't have sex with him, otherwise if you get caught then he could end up in serious trouble with the police.
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reader, Tinalishus +, writes (6 April 2007):
 Hey,This is going to sound patronising but sweetie love is such a strong word. More then likely you really do like him but not love!Your between the ages of 13-15 you have you whole life ahead of you to fall inlove, why now? why with this lad? he's too old for you experience things with people your own age!! he's probably done it all before, do you want to feel pressured????Good luck
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reader, stina  +, writes (6 April 2007):
 Hi there Anonymous,
First I have a few questions:
-- Are you two dating?
-- If not, what sort of a relationship do you have with him?
-- What do you think his reaction would be?
-- Where do you see things going if you do tell him?
If you two have not even dated, I would not tell him how you feel, and this is why:
First and most important reason: He could get in trouble with the law if anything sexual were to happen between the both of you. I would respect that and him and not make any moves.
Once you're of legal age, then I say go for it. Until then, I would not do anything that could lead to him getting in serious trouble. If you really care about him, don't confuse him.
That doesn't mean that you two can't be friends, though, right? There's nothing wrong with an adult and a minor being friends with one another. You might even grow closer together to the point where he makes the first move, hopefully when you're of legal age.
I know that you really want to tell him, or else you wouldn't be asking, right? But think about it from his point of view. What would you do if a minor confessed his love for you? How would you react? Would it make you feel awkward or pressured? Would it push you away to make sure nothing happened?
Take care.
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reader, ruth2203 +, writes (6 April 2007):
depends how you think he feels when i was 15 i went out with a 23 year old , if youlike him that much but remeber he is older and there is a lot of risks with that!
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