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writes:I am totaly in love with one of my best friends. We have been friends for about 2 years now and in the last 6 months we have become emotionaly very close and i've grown dependent on him. I have feelings for him as in more then just a friend.The problem is, although he feels the same way back we live very very far away from each other now. About a year or so ago he moved away down south and now lives interstate. I love him so much and I cant imagine being with anyone else.I've thought about moving to where he lives next year when I turn 18 but I am pretty scared to leave home for the first time.I want to move to his town but there are just so many problems thatwould come with it- like how would I cope with study, work and living in a town where I have no family? How would i support myself financialy? And my mum wouldnt support me on moving away either.But I care for him so much and want to be with him.I really think I would move away to be with him but the thing that makes me so upset is that ive proposed to do all that and he hasnt suggested to do anything for me.I mean like why am I the one who has to pick up my life and move away? Why can't he? He is 19 years old where as i am only 17. Its kinda like he doesnt want to be with me enough to move away and im not sure i should move away to be with someone who wouldnt do the same if he had too. I am so confused, please help! What do I do???
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reader, tux  +, writes (21 June 2006):
 You say he hasn't proposed to do the same. my thought is maybe because he feels that you will and that you have no issues with it. Have you talked to him about your issues on moving far away? You should be able to talk to him about your concerns on moving to where he lives. You didn't say that you expressed your concerns to him, which may lead him to believe everything is great on that aspect and him proposing to move to you is just useless since you are moving there to begin with. Talk to him about it if you haven't and then see how he reacts. That will tell you more .
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reader, sweet and sour +, writes (20 June 2006):
 hunny, if your having second thoughts about whether he loves you enough then surely moving to be soley with him is not the thing to do. all though it may seem like love and it could well be, relationships dont last forever as im sure many people have found out. by moving you are leaving everything you have and everything you are comfortable with. yes change can be a good thing but if your not 100% sure i would stay put. It may be a long way away but if both of you are serious about each other it shouldnt be an issue to travel this distance to see each other and if you seriously want to move closer to him why not suggest to him both of you moving half way. this would then show both of you just how committed you are to one and other.
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