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writes:Hi I have just started being friends with this guy but i really like him he is a really nice guy and everyone thinks so he has a lot of girl mates cause he finds it easy being mates with girls but he said he is scared of having a girlfriend relationship and doesn't trust girls in that way he got treated bad in last relationships which has now scared him of girls how can you get him to want more with you then just friends and show that you are serious about him and that your not like those other girls thanks if any reply Reply to this Question
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reader, bardia  +, writes (24 January 2012):
 I have to agree with the other poster. I was with a guy who kept a string of exgirlfriends around because they "understood" him & he'd been so "hurt" by girls in the past. I gave him literally everything-$$$, companionship, sex, gifts, took care of him well-& I wasn't enough for him to fully commit to. So I broke it off & he's begged me to be the next in his string of "friend-girls". What a copout. If the guy had that many issues trust me, you can NOT fix, save or otherwise help him (except maybe in bed). Ditch this user attention-whore & find someone who knows how to have a healthy normal relationship with women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): there is no sexual contact with us he has said it him self that he is scared of relationship because of his past relationships he invites me round his place and were on our own he has never tried it on i have caught him checking me out but he has never tried anything i know a lot of his girl mates and he has never been with any of them his last relationship was over a year ago and it was a long one i think she cheated on him and used him he is also quite a shy guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): I think you are leading yourself on the wrong direction. What you should be listening to is him not wanting a relationship and also not fooling yourself into thinking he's unhappy and scared. I'm guessing he is really enjoying playing the field, being surrounded by girls fawning over him, and getting what he wants without having to date anyone. You're missing the point. You may not like how he is handling things but I'll bet he has no complaints!
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