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writes: I have worked with a guy called carl for 4 years and ive always really liked him but ive dated other people as he as a girlfriend. When i went on my 1st works do his best friend told me that carl loves me but he cant and wont do anything as he has a girlfriend. I was quite surprised about this but never said anything. Then recently Carl kissed me and we were intimate but didnt have intercourse. I wanted to do it as it felt right and good but now i feel like he sees me as a tart. Can you please tell me your opinion on what you have read and what you think would be the best thing to do. I am 22 and hes 30. Thankyou
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reader, Katylouise +, writes (8 October 2006):
Katylouise is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm just a very shy person and i dont really feel comfortable talking openly about my feelings im more used to helping other people with thiers! Im just going to have to realise that if this was meant to be it would be happening i think the people that have been giving me answerson this site are right and its starting to sink in! Im just going to sit back and see what fate brings.
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reader, ali1987 +, writes (8 October 2006):
 If you dont feel comfortable talking openly to him about the situation then maybe hes not the right man for you after all. If things really did get that bad between you both after you have spoken to him then he is showing you his true colours and you would have learnt from this situation. Nobody can give you the right answer it has to come from within you, but i know if it was me i would go ahead and talk to him about it, at least then you know where you stand, and in the future there will be no what ifs in your mind. You can hold your head up high and say you tried.
As for working together, he is 30 years old therefore he should be able to keep a professional manner towards you at work and if he doesnt go to your boss. Or maybe if things dont work out the way you want then a clean break may be order, find a new job and start again.
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reader, Katylouise +, writes (7 October 2006):
Katylouise is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI still feel confused and im even thinking about it in my sleep i dont see how I can say anything to him after all i work with him and one wrong move could make things really bad! Can anyone suggest anything?
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reader, ali1987 +, writes (7 October 2006):
Hunny you need to ask him his true feeling and not his mates. Ask him how he really feels. If his love is genuine, then ask what he intends to do about it. After all he cant love you both, well some men say they can love more than one woman but personally i think its crap and just an excuse to shag two women at a time. But then i have very strong opions on that sort of thing. Because I have found my soul mate and know that no body else could possible come close. If he really loves you and you want a relationship out of this not just sex then tell him he has to make a decison, you or her, after all at the end of the day if things carry on like this you will be the one who looks bad not the other woman.
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