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writes: the other week i was at a party and got really drunk. i ended up having sex with this chav, which was a really big mistake. i went back to school and all these other chavs now want to beat me up because he has a girlfriend (which i didnt know about)and there all after me! i have denyed the whole thing and so has he, but i really dont know what to do! i dont want the whole of the school after me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): I slept with someone who had a fiancee.. i didnt know til his fiancee talked to me.. and we did talk it out for three days and now that man who i slept with.. he will send out his philly girl gang to me to beat shit out of me....
just let it happened, they will get worse and report to police.. save the conversation or anything dont even WASH yourself at all.. go to emg room they will take care of everything for you. there nothing that you should worry about
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): okay so if your at school why you drinking and getting yourself in these situations anyway?also chavs are not the best people to sleep with..well anyway i hope all this turns out to be okay for you
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reader, Loza +, writes (10 October 2006):
 Im not going to lie to you I am still at school maself and I know what the rules in the playground are! At the end of the day you didnt know he had a gf and thats not your fault he didnt tell you! you are responsible for what you have done but you dnt deserve this. When it comes down to it "talking this out" with these people is not going to work you need to try and go directly to his gf and talk to her but get her on own so she doesnt show off infront of her mates, even if she doenst want to talk to you, take controle and make her listen! tell her you didnt know and if you did you would not have done it, exagerate, lie if you have to but make her see that you didnt no. she is the ring leader of all this so she is the problem if you can get through to her then she will tell, and explain to all her "chav" mates that its not your fault and they will lay off you, you wont become best of mates but least you wont be being bullied. Good luck hope it all works out for! xxx let me know what happens maybe I can help abit more I have delt with girls like this but about something different.
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (8 October 2006):
 Chavs eh? They seem to have spread everywhere like a plague! Dont worry, I doubt they'd beat up a girl (unless by chavs you mean chavettes?). Best bet is trying to avoid them for now and hoping the situation passes; they're bound to move on eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): What horrible judgemental replies from the first two people, particularly ali.
Anonymous - I'm really sorry about your situation you have inadvetantly and through no fault of yourself got yourself in to this situation. I don't know if you knew he had a girlfriend, but I think that is irrelevant really. If these people really are chav's your best bet is to not try and reason with them because they will not understand you. I don't know how old you are but I think you need to confide in a teacher that you get on with and explain the situation. Your teacher will not judge you they have seen all this kind of thing before. You should also take care to avoid them, and to not be walking around alone. Hopefully, they will move on to someone else; especially if the boy is denying it too.
Please don't think it is the whole school either (unless they are all chav's - you poor girl!!) I remember being in a similar situation to yours at school where someone I was with decided to shout some racist abuse at a moroccan gang and I too spent the next few years having to avoid getting a severe beating from the small-minded simple thugs who were probably far more racist than any white people in the school.
This thing will clear over, but try to avoid these people and.... do not go to parties where there are lots of chavs, ok? :)
Good luck!
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reader, Katylouise +, writes (7 October 2006):
I know you dont want anyone to harm you but unfortunately you done something you must face the consequences to. If anyone else from school confronts you about it dont lose your temper as that shows people that you are guilty calmly say that you havent been near any guy recently and its just gossip. I know im telling you to lie but sometimes you have to cos by owning up to this you could have a very hard time at school i know this cos ive been in a similar way myself a few years ago when i as still at school. But learn from this please and be careful.
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reader, ali1987 +, writes (7 October 2006):
 For a start your at school, therefore I would say your too young to be having sex, secondly dont use your drinking habits as an excuse for actions. One of my ex partners use to cheap on me every night he went out with his mates, his excuse was he was drunk. Im sorry to tell you this but its a load of crap, yes things may seem a bit of a blur when your drunk, but unless you was drugged you know when your having sex, and whether you should be or not. But enough of the preaching. One good thing to come out of this is your at school, therefore you have the support of teachers and the school nurse. If they beat you up, then you get the police involved. There is nothing you can do now, your going to have to live with your actions. I personally would talk to his girlfriend alobe, without all her mates around. Try and explain it was as much him as you, after all it takes two to tango and all that. But all i can suggest is think about your actions before you do something stupid like that again, and think about the consequences, if you cant handle the heat then dont do it.
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